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26 yo male concerned about parents marriage/alcoho...

Hello everyone, I am Oceanb0rn I am a soon to be 26 yo male, I have a good relationship with my folks and...

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Hello everyone, I am Oceanb0rn

I am a soon to be 26 yo male, I have a good relationship with my folks and recently moved back home for the time being due to financial reasons. I also have 2 younger brothers, both in their early 20s with a similar situation.

My concern however is for my parents who seem to have hit what I can only assume is a complete and utter "communication wall" in their marriage. I often just wonder if either is really happy being with the other. I'll do my best to explain a little of what I know from both of them (I do have a tendancy to rant, its hard not to trying to get my thoughts in order so bear with me):

My dad is the type of guy that's no nonsense, down to earth, set in his ways type of guy like most typical dads are. He's an avid sports fan, so much so that it's all he ever really wants to watch or talk about and is constantly on the phone with his brother/my uncle talking about that very subject (something Mom absolutely HATES). He finds talking with Mom to be more of a chore than anything as he is often chewed out for it and avoids any type of conflict with her whenever possible. Sometimes he'll say things meant as a slight against all women but really i know he's talking about Mom.

My mom is another that is set in her ways but for entirely different reasons. She's not a sports lover even in the slightest and treats my dad's supposed obsession with it with an utter disdain. She is more accepting and open minded of others then my father (much to his dislike) and has no problem telling him off for even the tiniest of offenses.

Normally this just sounds like your typical personality clashes and bickering between two long time married people, but I know better. I know what the X-factor is that fuels this into something worse..and that is alcohol.

This isn't what i'd consider a sudden "bump-in-the-road" in their relationship either, this is a development that I know has been in the making for quite some time..although in the much earlier days it was far worse than it is now. Things are much better since then however, emotional wounds mended and all that, but even now whether it be slight or massive, i sense a relapse that could end their marriage for good.

I rarely touch the stuff for the sole purpose of what i've seen it put my parents relationship through. I feel like my Mom has in fact been the one to overindulge more but my Dad has done it too. When that happens Mom is just plain hard to talk to and I feel is NOT happy when she does it, least of all to dad. She will often repeat herself over and over again so the conversation goes nowhere fast. When my Dad does it he becomes a walking regret, basically telling us about all the things he could have done in life and quite frankly a lot of it is not something you'd tell your kids of any age.

Alot of what im seeing now however isn't so much rage or frustration, but rather just a deadening of the desire to work at their problems, a "surrender" to the way things are if you will. But my mom's told me before that she will be the one to leave if it comes to that, and I think that will in fact be the case if it plays out the way i imagine it probably will as my dad is the stubborn type.

I think the glue that's still holding this together is us 3 boys. That's the one thing they can both agree on, of that I have no doubt in my mind. But my brothers are in fact seeking career opportunities and I myself have just started a new job. If we find ourselves out of the house soon, i think their reason for staying together might have just left with us.

I care about my parents happiness, and that in fact has led me to believe that I could care about it more than the current state of their marriage. I think they could work on it if they tried but I just don't see the desire on either side really. I'm unsure of how to go about this as one just sees the other as the problem so taking a side is impossible.

I would appreciate any advice that could be given, thank u all for ur time.View Thread

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