Please feel free to join our discussions and share your view. I am sorry that your son is having difficulties and hope it gets solved soon.
Have you considered getting your son in a sport activity? My son had some anger issues and we got him involved in football and then mixed martial arts. Wearing him down and allowing him to get the aggression out might help. My son is 17 now and knows when he feels angry he needs to work out.
I am sorry that you are having some issues with medications. What kind of doctor prescribed you the medications? It is important that you speak with a specialist about your ADD/ADHD Many members feel a psychiatrist would be best to consult for this type of medication.
There are a few types of medication that you can take. Try consulting with someone who specializes with adult ADD/ADHD and will monitor your progress.
You can always come to this community to vent if you need, we are here to offer support in what you decide.