I my goodness, yes yes yes! My partner and I have been together for 10 years, and my undiagnosed ADHD has driven us over a cliff many times. In fact, as a last resort in saving our relationship we started reading a book called, "Is It, You, Me or Adult ADD".
Word for word, in painful detail this book described our life together! It also gave practical advice on how to proceed, together. (: Get the book immediately, and then ask your partner about seeking counseling; it's essential for adults with ADHD!
I'm sorry Joan Marilyn. You must be terribly worried for your son and his future. However, it sounds like your family is certainly on the right track. The struggle takes a long time, and your son will probably always work a little harder than others. But, he can definitely succeed!
I'm a 45 year art education professor with severe dyslexia and a recent diagnose (one year ago) of extreme ADHD. I got series about treating the dyslexia in graduate school. And as a result, I graduated with honors. And, my current treatments for ADHD (counseling, life coaching and adderall) are making a complete difference in my entire out-look on life!
However, your son must be the driving force behind making change in his life. He must also learn that how change is possible! As you probably know, this disability is all about positive vs. negative ways of thinking.