My name is Ed and I live in Philadelphia. I used to be a very successsful high school teacher. In 2000, I was diagnosed ADHD but by that time my marriage was beyond repair and ended in divorce in 2002. I also suffer from severe anxiety and Major Depression. I am on disability, but the loss of income from teaching was dramatic and after I pay for my mental health care and prescriptions I can barely survive. I resigned from teaching in 2007 ending an 18 year career. I had just settled a legal battle with my ex wife where she got away with not disclosing stock options she was given by her bank during our marriage. They turned out to be worth $520,000. T/O the court battle my family gave me little emotional support and when it ended after going as far as the appellate court who overturned a ludicrious decision by the Superior Court. i had to settle before a trial could be held because I ran out of money and my paycheck whas leveraged with home equity and pension loans. The entire settlement i recieved was just enough to pay my attorney. I knew my financial house was going to collapse - it was just a matter of time.
I have two children, son 19 and a daugter 15. I was "Mr. Mom" in addition to a demanding career as a high school teacher and the data base manager for the high school. I love my children more than anything in this world.
While I was parenting my ex wife was climbing the career ladder and is currenlty the most sought after banker in the city of Philadelphia and worth millions. She is a VP for the largest Philadelphia based bank.
I am sure my ADD cause some of the problems in our marriage, but when she was award the options the marriage was over, I just didn't know it. My ex wife has a personality very few people have. She is very likeable, outgoing and maybe the smartest person I know. Her flaw is she doesn't have any ethics and money means more to her than anything in the world.
After the settlement of the stock options which destroyed me financially my anger(ADHD), depression and anxiety took over my life. I couldn't get out of bed in the morning i was so depressed. My financial situation caused tremendous amounts of anxiety. My 90% parenting role began to slowly diminish and basically ended in Feb 2009 when my financial house completely collapsed. I lost my condo to foreclosure, lost my Jeep Liberty and every material possesion I owned.
i attempted suicide in Feb 2009 when I had to give away my daughters dogs - the most important part of her life. I survived, but barely.
My ex wife took complete advantage of my collapse and eliminated me from my children's lives. That made everything continually get worse. The feeling of loss was tremendous.
After 3 long years my Doctors finally have the right combination of drugs along with weekly therapy to control my depression, most of my ADHD and most of my anxiety.
My entire family has rejected me, along with my children and i am alone. All my social groups were destroyed by my collapse and I have virtually no support left.
I am hoping there are others in Philadelphia who suffer from ADHD, which I battle with every day, even medicated. I have excelllent mental health care, but the external life factors are making it very difficult for the medicine to completely control the symptons of each of my illnesses.
I hope to hear from some others who also suffer from Adhd who have suffered great loss as a result.