Sounds like you have done your research. You cannot pressure your wife into this. You're right, she is in denial and can be going through a grieving process.
I'd suggest validating her feelings, express your concerns and discuss a plan. Tell her you don't think he's doing these things on purpose. Have this conversation when things are calm and neither of you are stressed. A plan could be that you request an evaluation through the school to get the child setup on an IEP. Or read "The Explosive Child" together. Early intervention is key and helping any child to do their best will be good for everyone. Look up Sensory Processing Disorder...this may be a good place to start and is less daunting then trying to take on an ADHD diagnosis.View Thread