I'm a 46 yr old female, don't have PTSD, but do suffer from depression and anxiety, and do have a family history of alcoholism and ADD. In fact, when my sister (at the age of 60) and her 2 daughters were diagnosed with ADD, my sister told me to get an assessment also, because she thought I had it, too. My previous psychiatrist laughed in my face when I asked him 2 yrs ago and told me it was "just" depression and wrote some more prescriptions, which didn't help. I still kick myself for not pushing it any further, because I could have saved myself at least 1.5 yrs of enormous trouble.Unfortunately, at that time, I was soo depressed that I didn't push anything!
Fast forward 1.5 yrs, after a suicide attempt (which resulted in a voluntary 72hr stay at a mental hospital, which was more directed towards addiction/detoxing than any other mental problems) and a move back to what I call home these days, at the beginning of this year, I , at some point, once again sought help by checking myself into another hospital. This hospital was actually mostly geared towards mental problems and helped me so much. The psychiatrist there and I were talking one day (I had never mentioned ADD to him) about how I react to hydrocodone, which I take for my migraines. For me, hydrocodone acts like speed. He started asking me all kinds of questions, and at the end he told me that I am ADD. That was in April, and I have been on Ritalin since then! I can't start to tell you what a difference it has made!
My point here is that if you have ADHD running in the family, there is a very good chance that you have it too! My advice would be to find someone who can test you for it and take that test! In all my 46 years, I never even thought about me having ADD. I recognized it in other people, but never even considered the thought I could have until I heard from my sister.
Get tested! Usually therapists can do that, but you'll have to find one that is specialized in that area! I found someone to have my son tested through the therapist I'm seeing myself! Maybe the VA can help you find someone!
I hope I helped you at least a little bit with my reply, if nothing else, at least the knowledge that you are not alone in how you feel! Hang in there!View Thread
I was diagnosed with ADD/inattentiveness about 6 months ago, at the age of 46. I thought I knew what ADD was, but I'm slowly coming to the conclusion that I did not know a thing. In my research for today, I found this community. All I can say is WOW! Every thread I've read talks about me! Who would have thought that my excessive nail biting and mostly, my horrendous cuticle picking is part of the ADD life? Who would have thought my endless line of jobs and guys who "were the one" for a while, was because of my ADD? Who would have thought that the feeling of not working hard enough, not good enough, not living up to my potential, is part of the way my brain chooses to work? My finances, my impulsiveness, my interrupting others, my hyper focus, my lack of focus, my ADD has made its way into every single part of my life. Somebody said to not let it define me, but how can I not? I don't have ADD, I AM ADD! My meds (Ritalin, combined with Effexor and Klonopin) help a lot and I'm doing much better than I was 6 months ago, heck, than EVER! However, I'm starting to realize that this will be a struggle for the rest of my life! That's a pretty overwhelming thought and we all know how we deal with overwhelming thoughts! Patience is definitely not one of my virtues, I want the cure NOW! But there is no cure! There is a process ahead of me that will teach me on how to deal with myself and that will take a lot of work. My ADD mind is thinking to not deal with that learning process and to not do the work, just take the meds, that's already made me so much better than ever before. But I know that I have to go through that process and that I have to learn how to work around and with it, so that it won't destroy the rest of my life. I thought the diagnosis would relieve me, finally knowing what's wrong with me, but it turns out to feel more like a punishment. I am ADD, and that means I'm starting a whole new journey (I don't think I'll have fun on this journey) at the age of 46. What I've known about myself for 46 years, has now been changed and I have to completely start over! I'm very happy to know that I'm not the only one, that I do fit in somewhere, but where do I go from here?View Thread
I live in a city of about 75,000, and I know we have 3 Behavioral Hospitals. I was lucky to find the best one, and with it the best psychiatrist in town on staff! He also has a private practice. It is the absolute best hospital I've been in (did it 4 times before that one in a different city) and the best part of the hospital and the psychiatrist is that neither asked/asks me for any money. I do have insurance, but with the other hospitals I had to pay part of it myself ($1,100 for a 72hr stay) Start with finding a good hospital. They will help you to find a good psychiatrist, and then go from there!View Thread