Yes. Please stop involving your daughter in your step-daughter's issues. I'd advise you to engage in family counseling right away so you can learn appropriate boundaries and effective blended family parenting skills. It's not easy being a step-parent. I feel so badly for your step-daughter. She has to deal with both her parent's divorce and ADHD. She appears to have poor self esteem (lack of friends, lack of social skills, lack of hygiene) and now she has to deal with your "perfect" daughter as well. Family counseling with a good therapist can be high beneficial.View Thread
You should also be concerned regarding the effects of not treating your grandchildren's ADHD which I can assure you may be substantial. I hope they received a thorough evaluation from a specialist.
My son has been on medication (pills) since he was age 6 and he is almost 15. He is on honor roll, a peer counselor, a teacher's aide in a class for severely handicapped students, a religious school aide, a Boy Scout and Fire Explorer.
I give my son a big breakfast. We also let him eat non stop in the evening when his Adderall wears off. We make a variety of foods available to him both before and after dinner. His doctor suggested Ensure but my son doesn't like it.View Thread