You are incorrect. To decide to give your child medication, the most effective treatment for many with ADHD, is not easy.
I am a social worker and have worked with many children with ADHD throughout the years as well as having one son with ADD and one with ADHD. The older required environmental supports, the younger medication.
While I am happy that your grandson has had a good result with what you have done, please don't smugly pat yourself on the back and then state that others who have needed a different path have chosen the "easy" one. It is anything but.View Thread
I have problems with self diagnosis. Howver, your boyfriend is having problems and you are demonstrating that you care by tryng to help him.
If his family does not have medical insurance, he may qualify for medicaid. There are also community mental health clinics that provide evaluations, therapy and medication to people at no charge or sliding scale.
The first step should be to find out what is actually going on. Your boyfriend can speak to his school counselor as well or call the public health department to get a referral for some help.