I am wondering if your son a full evaluation done by a Child Psychiatrist?
When behaviors are continuing to disrupt his life, you made need to get more help and change course.
Did he have these outbursts / behaviors prior to starting medication?
This is so very difficult, because you want your son to have friends and be able to function in school. Often times school can become toxic, because the child has outbursts, then the children won't want to play with him - then that is upsetting to the child, and it goes around and around.
I feel for you and your son, its hard! ((((Hugs)))) -KathleenView Thread
In my opinion a lack of consistency is anxiety provoking for any person, let alone a 6 year old child, who you say has already been through a lot.
Even a cat or a dog would act out if they were to switch homes every week, or every few days. An adult would feel disrupted too. Imagine trying to gather your belongings, favorite toys, school work and schlep it from one home to another. Sounds awful to me : (
Why not have these 3 children reside in 1-home and have the parents move in and out as custody is allowed. Makes more sense to me, then uprooting the kids every few days.
Sometimes ignoring undesired behavior does work, but you must be consistent.
He very may well be doing it for attention. What can really help, is "catching" your son being good. Pay attention to the littlest of things, and when he does something right or good (even if its something small, like throwing away his trash, or clearing his spot), say something like, "hey, that's great you're cleaning up after yourself, I like that".
If you see he catches himself and doesn't swear when he typically would, you can say, "I noticed you were going to say something - a swear word, good for you for using self control" Praise him up and down......that is another form of attention, just uplifting for him.
After a few days, if you notice your son is now really trying to please you, you could say, "I have been noticing how great you are doing at controlling your swearing and helping out around the house, let's go for ice cream on Saturday" - - offer him some special reward or outing to let him see firsthand the reward of his controlling himself.
These links will help you learn about how to deal with the school, but as for your daughter's father, the only advice I can think of is to document his behavior and let the professionals know he is not on board with medication.
Hope some of this helps! Take care, -KathleenView Thread
There is great cause for hope and educating yourself will help you, help your daughter.
My 3rd daughter had depression upon puberty onset - and its not uncommon for those pre-disposed to mood issues. My 4th daughter had mood issues since birth and has been my REAL education!
Medication trials are hard, no doubt about it, but they can be necessary if a child's symptoms are interfering with their daily life.
I don't believe the statementis entirely accurate: " Her psych. said that it would have started working by then if she did indeed have ADD" I have known many people that didn't have success with Ritalin, who have ADD, yet had success with other stimulant type medications. Again, its a very individual thing.
Did her Psychiatrist do a thorough evaluation upon seeing your daughter as a patient? If not, I would consider a second opinion from a Child Psychiatrist.
How is her school supporting her? Does your daughter have a 504 or an IEP?
Am happy to offer ideas and suggestions - I understand how hard this all can be!! (((((((Hugs)))))))! -KathleenView Thread