Who did you have conduct the testing for your son?
You mention his grades are plummeting, is the school working with you in supporting your son? Your son may need school accommodations, such as seating up front near the teacher, longer test taking times (even in another room - less distracting), modified homework etc.... There is a lot a school can offer a child who is struggling. You can get a 504, or an IEP that the school must follow to help your son succeed.
Am happy to offer suggestions and support if you need, I understand how difficult this can be. Take care, -KathleenView Thread
When medicating a child as young as 6, its extremely important to have a smart, qualified Child Psychiatrist treating him.
Did a Child Psychiatrist do the initial evaluation?
Prior to medication, did your son have mood swings, and talk to you the way he does now? I ask, because sometimes medication can make a child worse. It could be the wrong medication for him, or too high of a dose etc..
It is exhausting living this way - and he's only 6. You need support and guidance. How is the school helping him? Is his teacher supportive?
Take care, and write back if you feel up to it ; ) -KathleenView Thread
Medication is individual - what works for some, can be a disaster for another. You note, your son's anger is worse on the vyvanse, so I hope his Dr. is taking him off of it?
I found for my daughter that counseling was not as effective when she was unstable - she was too distractable, too anxious and not much sank in. Once she was more stable, her brain calm, she could absorb the therapy.
There must be a lot of history behind you seeking treatment....... Initially was your son having difficulty in school and home? Does your son have an IEP or 504 plan at school? - KathleenView Thread
I am wondering if your son a full evaluation done by a Child Psychiatrist?
When behaviors are continuing to disrupt his life, you made need to get more help and change course.
Did he have these outbursts / behaviors prior to starting medication?
This is so very difficult, because you want your son to have friends and be able to function in school. Often times school can become toxic, because the child has outbursts, then the children won't want to play with him - then that is upsetting to the child, and it goes around and around.
I feel for you and your son, its hard! ((((Hugs)))) -KathleenView Thread
In my opinion a lack of consistency is anxiety provoking for any person, let alone a 6 year old child, who you say has already been through a lot.
Even a cat or a dog would act out if they were to switch homes every week, or every few days. An adult would feel disrupted too. Imagine trying to gather your belongings, favorite toys, school work and schlep it from one home to another. Sounds awful to me : (
Why not have these 3 children reside in 1-home and have the parents move in and out as custody is allowed. Makes more sense to me, then uprooting the kids every few days.
These links will help you learn about how to deal with the school, but as for your daughter's father, the only advice I can think of is to document his behavior and let the professionals know he is not on board with medication.
Hope some of this helps! Take care, -KathleenView Thread