Hi, I'm Danielle. I am active on the infertility treatment board and DH and I have struggled with infertility for almost 3 years. We just got some bad SA results (DH may now have zero sperm, we need to clarify...long story) and just last night I got a text from a friend asking if she could come over. I hadn't seen or talk to her in a while but she came over and told us she was pregnant and she didn't want to keep it. She said she was going to have an abortion but she couldn't get us out of her head and wants us to adopt her baby. She knows of our struggles.
We all three talked for a long time and she is 80% sure she wants to do this. If she doesn't give us the baby, she is going to have an abortion. Of course, we said we would want it.
None of us know where to begin and we do have concerns. How would an adoption like this work? Will it be significantly cheaper than going through an agency? I have heard of people adopting for $75 for filing fee because they were able to adopt this way. I know in Utah they require a homestudy whether you go through an agency or not. Who would we contact? Can we just get papers from the court to do ourselves. She wants to keep this as simple as possible...no lawyers, no agency, etc. All three of us are interested is some form of counseling to talk about what it will be like...after all we are friends and it would obviously be an open adoption.
She is 7.5 weeks along and due in November. I know these things take time and I have no idea how to even get the ball rolling? Any information would be appreciated.View Thread
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