My cousins' friend had a "Celebration Party" for her third and it was so wonderful! Because we weren't all sitting around bored watching a lady open gifts, it really seemed to be a welcome to the little one. We all contributed pictures and made a big scrapbook for the fetus, using family pictures and stuff even from the other baby showers.
It was to celebrate the growth of their family, not to get more stuff, and it was all the Mom's doing. I didn't find it tacky at all, because on the e-vite it specifically said "Gifts Unwelcome, Bring Your Memories and Love!" or something kinda cheesy like that.
It was by far the nicest any kind of shower I've ever been to.View Thread
Am I a bad person for cracking up at that!? hahaha
I actually had a vaguely (vaguely) similar thing JUST happen. My friend-casual friend- is getting married on Sunday. I've been invited to the wedding, but I declined. I despise ceremonies like that and only go to the ones of those I care a ton about.
Well, thank gawd I didn't go out of my way to go. Because I get an e-mail TODAY. Friday the thirtieth at around 5 PM that her wedding, which was on Sunday is actually on Saturday. Oops! "My printer and I were fighting, and I guess I put in the wrong date!" was her crap explanation. All I could think was "Damn, if I'd rescheduled my work, bought the outfit, rented the hotel room and everything, to be told less than 24 hours in advance...I'd be on a rampage.".
Silly people. If the manfriend EVER seriously proposes, I'm bookin' a flight to Vegas and just being done with it!!! hahahaha View Thread
If the herpes theory is right, how awful for everyone involved, really. It's sad that he did what he did, sad that this woman now has herpes forever, and sad that that's a cornerstone on which they're building a "lifelong " commitment.View Thread
Oh, I'm not saying he's not in an abusive situation. It's just frustrating to watch someone let fear/low self esteem keep them in that kind of situation. I know I've gone on and on about it before, but I think there is a responsibility of the victim to get OUT, and by not holding yourself to higher standards of respect and love that you deserve, the victim (in my opinion) becomes part of the abuse cycle.
I'm not saying anyone deserves abuse, but like in this case, OK, it's something embarassing (seemingly) that's keeping him there. At a certain point, you have to look at yourself, your LIFE with this person and say "This is UNacceptable". Unless he was doing something totally heinous (NOT SAYING HE WAS) it's time to weigh if that potential embarassment is worth spending the rest of his natural life being henpecked to death. And if that IS still preferable, then why shouldn't he be held accountable for his choices?
What I am most ashamed in after my years of abuse are not what he did to me, but the willingness with which I tied my own noose. Paying PAYING cabs to go see someone who would almost unfailingly feel like crap?! How awful is that!?
Maybe I did phrase it harshly. Maybe instead of "growing a sac" I should've said "Treating himself with love". Because if you lie down for anyone, for any reason and are willingly their doormat, you might get stepped on. Again, I'm not saying that that's fair, and I'm not saying that he's totally miserable and she's evil and I guess really I'm not saying much, because I don't know these people. Mostly what I meant is that it is awful to watch a shining star transform into a shadow at the hands of someone else, and know how powerless they feel.View Thread
It's so sad watching someone you love get their spirit zapped by their significant other. I've seen the same thing with a close friend of mine, he used to be such a fun, happy person. But I can't help but get mad at him sometimes. He's a nice, handsome guy, and he keeps himself tied to the situation.
I really liked someone else's suggestion of a nice card and saying that Marc being there is the gift. It's classy, but still doesn't waste your time and money.
I guess I just don't get why people, through their big "Vision" seem so willing to not include the people in their day to day life. I mean, a marriage is a contract, the wedding is just a party. Wouldn't you want all the people you love to party with you?View Thread
I don't know why it's only now clicking but...y'all have only been married a year!? In the best way possible, from your posts it seems like it's been way longer than that, just the love and familiarity you have with him...Wow.
HAPPY ANNIVERSARY!!! How did you guys meet, if I may ask?View Thread