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It is not December 1 and a new month is here. The last days of 2012 are upon us. Many will reflect on the past year while enjoying times of celebration with family and friends. As Judy posted a few days ago, we need to make sure we remain thankful and not let the holiday season overwhelm us.
My dad continues to do very well in his assisted living facility. My father-in-law is doing much better and more independent again. The health care professions continue to come on a regular basis but he has a good quality of live again.
I hope everyone has a healthy and happy Holiday Season!

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I am sorry you are experiencing this. There are definitely other medications that could help better with the aggressive tendencies. His family needs to take him to his doctor asap for evaluation and explain what is happening.
I hope this gets resolved soon.View Thread
Great to have you back. It's amazing how well people adjust despite our fears to the contrary.
So glad he's doing well there,
JudyView Thread
What a tough situation to be in. The slurred speech is a real concern, indicative of a possible medical condition that needs immediate attention. I ditto the suggestion that someone accompany both of them to a doctor's appointment.
Perhaps the family can get together and and share information about her behavior after a medical condition has been ruled out. The Alzheimer's Assn. has wise guidelines about family meetings. The fact that she is barring people from entering her home is another red flag. Often people who are developing dementia symptoms are obsessed with money matters as well.
Hope you can work something out,
JudyView Thread
I know about the article. The stories in my first book, Connecting the Dots..., all point to the benefits of respecting and seeing the person with Alzheimer's as a person first, a person who cannot change what is happening to himself. The only people who can change the situation are the caregivers. When the environment adapts to the needs of the person with this disease, problems diminish. Both parties connect and communicate and may even feel happy. It's up to us to read the signals. However, harried caregivers find that a real challenge.View Thread
Hope that helps,
JudyView Thread
For now, we won't do anything else. Thanks for the information.
KathyView Thread
I guess we'll continue going on as we are.
Thanks for the information.
KathyView Thread
My potted plants are beautiful. I thought 'spring is here at last'. Tonight here in NE Oklahoma we are expecting a freeze--27 degrees. I bunched the planters together and covered them with plastic.
The medical doctor was against my husband being reevaluated for possible Lewy Body Dementia. Dr. said that Ken was already on the right medicine and LBD can't be diagnosed except through a brain biopsy.
However, Ken is doing well and if it wasn't for his lower spine giving him so much pain, he would be able to be close to normal. He's been doing yard work and that makes him feel worthy.
Enjoy the springtime wherever you are.
KathyView Thread
Has your Dad been checked for an infection or dehydration? If his symptoms suddenly worsened, it's often a sign of an additional medical problem.
A medication review is recommended by me as well as the timing of the medications. Also, is there a certain time of day or situation which aggravates his behavior? If someone notes when and where the agitation occurs, and who is there when it happens, you may be able to change the situation or timing so that he is less aggressive.
Aroma therapy with lemon or lavender scents also is relaxing.
Studies show that the most common reason for aggression among those with these illnesses is the inability to communicate what they are experiencing. Soothing music, lower noise can all help. I have other suggestions in my book.
Hope you both get some relief,
JudyView Thread
The agitation and aggressiveness your father is exhibiting seem to be pretty common in Alzheimer's patients, but very difficult to treat. I know it's also very difficult for you to see your father in that state.
Agitation is listed as one of the possible side effects of Zoloft, but that doesn't necessarily mean that it's contributing to the problems your father is having. Seroquel actually is not recommended for dementia patients, but sometimes it's the only medication that can help combat aggressiveness. It can be a case of deciding if the benefits outweigh the risks.
I imagine your father is taking a lot of medications. You might take a list of them to your pharmacist and see if he/she thinks there might be adverse interactions or reactions making your father's behavior worse, and if there are other drugs that might work better.
I'm sorry I don't have any better suggestions. It may just be that the doctor needs to up the dosages of the Zoloft and/or Seroquel, or try similar drugs to see if they work better.
Best wishes.
CarolView Thread
You are wise to check out the risks about surgery. Does your Mom have a health care directive? She sounds 'with it' enough in the moment to be involved in the decision-making process so that she can express her feelings.
You could ask her if she wants to know what's going on with herself health-wise. You could review with her the risks of her memory getting worse versus the impact of not doing anything. It still is her body, and her life.
Knowing your Mom, what do you think she would want?
There are no clear-cut answers here, that's for sure,
JudyView Thread
It's hard to deal with this level of deterioration. The Alzheimer's Ass. at www.alz.org has a download detailing the stages of the disease. You may also call 800-272-3900 for the hand-out.
In my experience, it sounds like the disease has progressed into the late stages. I hope your girlfriend has help with her Mom; the local Alzheimer's Assn. may be able to give her some direction. It may be time to consider residential placement - there are some good facilities that accept medicaid as payment. They are skilled at taking care of these issues, which may permit your girlfriend to focus on how to find ways to relate to her Mom without the exhaustion of taking care of her physical needs.
Hope you guys get some relief,
JudyView Thread
It sounds as though your girlfriend's mother's Alzheimer's is fairly advanced. Here's a brief Web MD article about the stages of Alzheimer's, and another one from the Alzheimer's Association.
Is your girlfriend her only caregiver? It's a tough, tough job and I hope that the whole family is helping with her care.
It's nice of you to be concerned about your girlfriend's grandmother. You might both find an Alzheimer's Association support group to be very helpful; there are local ones in many areas.
Please feel free to post here any time, with questions or concerns. This board isn't very active right now, but someone will always respond to you.
Best wishes.
CarolView Thread
What a hard situation and strain on you, both physically and emotionally. Is your Dad diabetic and is it being controlled? With dementia, it's unlikely you'll make much of a dent regarding better nutrition since he sounds like he wasn't responding to that before it started. Low fat and sugar substitutes might help.
Meanwhile, I hope you have some assistance in performing his routine daily hygiene because you need to protect yourself from undue physical damage.
Take care of yourself,
JudyView Thread
Hope you've been able to arrange for hospice for your aunt. Her symptoms sound like the late stages of Alzheimer's, with 7 years about the average length of the disease. Her swallowing difficulties need to be addressed with a change of diet; the medical personnel should advise you.
Studies report that the inability to eat after food consistency has been adjusted is actually a way people let go, and that it is a relatively painless process.
You've been so attentive to her and she is lucky to have you on her team.
JudyView Thread
When something new pops up, it really 'rattles' me. Ken does so well and then out of the blue, something different shows up and I'm continually applying information that I have learned from all of you. You are much appreciated. Watch my next post, Alzheimers vs Lewy Body dementia.
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While reading about the care your MIL is giving your FIL, I'm thinking about how I help my husband, who was diagnosed with moderate AD about 2 years ago. I assist my husband in dressing also by 'standing over him' and helping where needed.
I'm wondering if maybe your FIL needs assistance in the bathroom, and maybe MIL doesn't want to have outside help in that area. Just a thought. It's really great that you are able to help your in-laws the way that you do. Just thinking.......
KathyView Thread
Yes, I know about the transformation in eye sight. I seem to always be fighting for better eyesight. The latest is double vision in my left eye. I need special glasses to drive.
Yesterday, Wednesday, 13th, I attended my first support group meeting. There were 4 of us plus the leader and one person couldn't come. Our loved ones all have AD. It felt so good to help others with information. I told them about Medic alert. One young woman who has cancer, is caring for her mother who has not been diagnosed yet. I told her what peace of mind Medic alert gave me when I was away from my husband. Also I shared about how to carry a list of medicines and doctors info. I felt so good after the meeting and told them that the support groups I've been in, have ended with hugs. That really went over well.
Ken continues to do well. I am so thankful for that.
Enjoy the Spring. I've been looking forword to it.
KathyView Thread
It's so nerve wracking to see someone you love go through these kind of changes.
Hope that your physician has shed some light on your husband's condition. Did anyone do a CT scan to rule out vascular incidents? A proper diagnosis is essential for appropriate treatment.
Hope you are getting some answers,
JudyView Thread
Carol has given you some sound suggestions. One way to get him to the doctor is to not tell him until right before you go, and then say that you are both going because you are sick with worry and need to be reassured that all is well.
Hope something works,
JudyView Thread
I'm terribly sorry about your wife. Alzheimer's is awful at any age, but especially heartbreaking in someone so young.
Has she been examined by a doctor to try to determine the cause of her cognitive problems? If she has Alzheimer's, there are drugs that can slow the progression of the disease in a lot of people. If it's something else, there may be other treatments available. The most important thing is to get a diagnosis if you don't have one.
The poster you responded to hasn't been here for almost a year, and the posts aren't about his mother. He just pasted a link from another web site; the posts were by someone on that site. If you click on the link in one of his posts, you may be able to read more current posts by those community members.
This board hasn't been very active recently, but someone will always respond to your questions, comments, frustrations, vents.. whatever you might want to talk about.
Best wishes to you and your wife.
CarolView Thread
In any case, this is all more than I or anyone here can help you with, I'm afraid. Have you tried Legal Aid? It sounds like you really need an attorney to help you.
If your husband does have Alzheimer's or other dementia, you might also try contacting your local Alzheimer's Association and see if they have some resources that might help you.
Best of luck. Let us know how you're doing.
CarolView Thread
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February is almost over. Here in NE Ok. we are getting a winter storm--freezing rain, snow and sleet. We have a new 6 mo. old dachshund and this is a shock to her. Like a toddler, she keeps us busy. I'm not a 'doggy'' person, but my husband loves dogs and our daughter introduced him to her doxie. He loved it, so we got the half-sister to our daughter's dog. She loves to lay around on his lap all day. I think it has done him a lot of good. He is more active because of picking up after her and going outside.
After 2 nites of not much sleep, and having anxiety, I took him to the doctor yesterday for nerve meds, but the doctor said 'no', he needed something for sleep. He takes melatonin and the Dr. added an antihistamine, Hydroxyzine HCL 10 mg. It doesn't drug him like Benedryl does. After a few good nites sleep, I think it will be fine.
Thanks for being there for us.
Kathy
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It sounds like your dad really needs to be seen by a doctor who can determine if he does have dementia and, if so, what kind it is. If he has Alzheimer's, the sooner he can start on the appropriate medications, the better. Nothing can cure it but there are some medications that can help slow the progression.
It could be something besides dementia, too -- as Dr. London mentioned in another thread, even something like a urinary tract infection can cause dementia-like symptoms, as can some other conditions and some medications.
If he does have Alzheimer's or, perhaps, another form of dementia, wandering in the night is not that uncommon. A motion-sensor light might work, or some sort of alarm.
Do you think he might be getting up to go to the bathroom, and then getting confused about where he is? Or might he just want some company? Does he talk to the person whose room he goes to?
Here's an article about sundowning that might be of help to you and your dad.
I hope you'll let us know what you find out, and how you and your dad are doing.
Best wishes,
CarolView Thread
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