Hi Carol, yes, I'm aware of Hospice. We are a long way from that. My daughter was concerned about when (and if) my husband should get violent and abuse me. She said I would then need to put him in a nursing home.
She suggested I get long-term health care. I think I've waited too long for that since we are in our mid 70's. I think it will be too expensive. However, I have contacted a company to get information. Also, I'm concerned about having to sell my home in order to pay a nursing home. I will do whatever is necessary. I really intend on keeping him home if possible. I normally don't think that far ahead, but by reading about everyone elses problems, I feel I must be knowledgable.
When my husband talked to the social worker at VA, he was told that they would try to help in anything that was needed. He offered safety bars for the tub and shower. (we already had these). He offered cane, walker, etc. and then he told my husband that they needed to take care of me, the caregiver. My husband seemed confused, but the social worker said that they could arrange for someone to come and stay with him while I went to the store or just a break. They he said, "We have to take care of her." I asked if the people who came would be veterans and he said, 'probably not, we work through other organizations.'
Are you aware of anything else that they might do? I was wondering if they might have "end care" in a nursing home.
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