My father-in-law is late in his disease and refuses to go to the bathroom and refuses to allow us to put depends on him as well. We have tried every type of coaxing but he gets very determined and refuses. He may go all day without urinating and days without a bowel movement. Does anyone have any suggestions? Of course the nurses are aware of this problem (Hospice care) and try to guide us but I wondered if there were any real life caretakers out there that have experience with this problem. Enemas are the usual course of action for no bowel movement (after 4 days).
He no longer communcaites at all just random words we do not understand. We try to understand but have had no luck. This makes it very difficult. He fell the other day and really scared us...he is OK but he is very unstable. Without the ability to communicate we are at a loss as to how to deal with this new behavior.
Thanks for your reply. We will probably have to do just that. He gets very agitated and antsy if he does not go out but overly agitated (to the point he can't calm himslef down) when we do too much. Do you use oral Benedryl? Why would the nurse give us this if it does not work. The cream comes in a syringe so maybe it has other ingredients I do not know about (but will find out).View Thread
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