So sorry for the delay, lauramay. I've been so busy trying to downsize and move.
Please read my book, Connecting the Dots: Breakthroughs in Communication as Alzheimer's Advances. The sighing is definitely a communication, and the book gives you practical tools to deal with that. People with Alzheimer's have feelings, but they don't understand what makes them feel that way. They also have unconscious memory and get impressions of what's going on without realizing why. Almost all behavior problems stem from the frustration of not being able to communicate, and we can help them.
I also urge you to contact community and religiopus groups - they often have volunteer help for caregivers. And, there are still a number of fine memory care facilities that accept medicaid and offer respite care for the caregiver so that even if you are not ready to place your mother in a facility, she could stay there short-term while you have a much-needed rest.
It's tough to deal with siblings in denial, but keep reporting the facts to them, and definitely find an in-person or other support group for yourself. The Alzheimer's Assn is the key.
Hard to believe that October is here. Please forgive me for being slower that usual - I am in the midst of a major move - what an ordeal! It makes be even more compassionate for the folks who have to move, and those of you you who have the burden of making it happen.
Great to hear that you keep on plugging along, Dave and Carol. I started the violin and singing in a chorus last summer. I don't practice the way I should, but it is fun - and stretches my brain. Fighting weight gain is a never-ending challenge for me, too, but exercise helps!
In a week or so, my new book will be available -and that has been a stimulating task.
It's hard to believe that it is August already. It's been a busy summer. I've incorporated some creative activities to keep my brain sharp - violin lessons, singing lessons, and keeping up my daily walks. What are some of the ways that you take care of yourself?
Often people with Alzheimer's have toileting issues. It's hard to know how else to cue her to sit on the toilet and relieve herself. Hopefully, she continues to go at a regular time so that you can anticipate her routine.
Consider getting some help to assist you especially if you know her routine so that you can get some relief.
Remember to take care of yourself, too, JudyView Thread
Sorry for the delay in responding - just got back from a vacation.
What a relief that you will soon see a doctor. Getting someone to cooperate by describing how hard it is for you is a great strategy -and all so true.
In my experience,the symptoms you describe may be due to the falls he had, especially if there was a head injury. The delusions are more symptomatic of a Lewy body dementia which have Parkinsonian features- a loss of balance and tremors.
Alzheimer's starts very gradually, not so suddenly.
I thought I responded to you but there may have been a glitch.
It is great that you have given such good care to your mother-in-law. As for her diminished eating, try to give her anything she likes. Ice cream, chocolate milk shakes with protein powder all help. She may have forgotten how to eat and needs instruction from an occupational or speech therapist; the latter can tell if she is having a swallowing problem and needs to be given food of a different consistency. I don't recommend simply putting sugar in her food without knowing more about the situation.
If she shows an interest in food from spoon feeding, you will be able to see if food still interests her.