Ruth, I share Carol, Marilyn, and Dave's concerns about your situation. Is there any chance your son can convince your husband to get checked out?
Like Carol and Marilyn said, it could be many things other than Alzheimer's, but it is very concerning that he's fixating on the loss of driving. In addition to the Alzheimer's organization, is there a church leader/elder to whom you could speak with about your concerns? A social worker?
Our Crisis Resources have many toll-free help lines if you are feeling at all threatened, confined, or in any way abused by your husband's behavior. I am copying them into this post so you can find them more easily.
Thank you for sharing more of your story with us, Joan. It sounds like you're trying to balance a lot of things. I don't know if your husband has insurance or not, but I know my company's insurance allows for over the phone talks to a counselor. Perhaps that's an option available to you?
That way, even if you were not feeling well enough to leave the house, you could still connect with someone to support you.
I'm very sorry about your mother's decline. I had to take a break from seeing my grandmother at one point, so I can understand a little of what you're going through.
Update us on how you're doing when you have a chance,
Hello Joan and welcome back. It's nice to see you again.
I agree that when I see the articles and think of my grandmother, I do have a brief moment of "what if?" This is compounded because my mother-in-law had Alzheimer's too, so I wonder about my spouse getting it.
However, I agree with Dave that if it is consuming your life and creating terror, a therapist or counselor may be a good person to talk all of this out with. You should not have to feel as if you're just waiting to die from Alzheimer's, and I hope some expert help can make a positive difference for you.
My personal mindset about Alzheimer's is that if it's going to get me later, it's not going to have me now.
The Pacific Northwest has been in the high 20s to mid 30s at night, and is around 50 during the day. There's a carpet of leaves to crunch on in some places and the rain makes the cedars and evergreen sparkle like they're tipped by jewels.
I agree about appreciating the little things and living in the moment.
I hope Ruth, Dave, Marilyn, Odie and everyone else are well and enjoying what November has to offer.
My mom has diabetes and just had the cataract surgery done this year. The procedure and recovery went very smoothly, and my mom's only complaint was about timing the eyedrops. In fact, my stepfather (who also has diabetes) was so impressed by the ease and vision improvement of the procedure, he's going to get his own done.
I sure hope you have the same experience. Let us know how you're doing when you have a chance.
Happy belated Birthday to your mom! Hope a fun time was had by all at the party.