It's good to see you posting again. Carol and Dave have given some wonderful support and suggestions already, so I'll just add a little.
Have you asked your wife how she feels? Sometimes we think we know how a loved one feels and sometimes it turns out we're wrong. In addition to your doctor, you may also want to talk to a counselor or therapist to help you with some of your concerns.
If you ever feel like you need them, we have a list of toll-free Crisis Resources . If you can't find this link, they're on the lower left hand navigation of every page in community. The button called "Crisis Assistance" will take you right there.
Please feel free to come here any time and let us know how you and your wife are doing,
"High Cholesterol Levels are associated with changes in the brain that are characteristic of Alzheimer's disease, a new study shows....Those who had total cholesterol levels over 224 mg/dL in mid- to late life, before they had any symptoms of Alzheimer's, were at least seven times more likely to have beta-amyloid plaques in their brains by the time they died, compared to people whose cholesterol was under 173 mg/dL."
If your cholesterol levels have been creeping up, you may want to talk to your doctor about getting them down. I know that I will be watching my own very closely.
I agree with Carol (cjh1203) that speaking to the office of elder cares, or perhaps a hospital social worker or patient advocate might be a good idea.
I don't know anything about the laws in your state, but when my grandmother (who had Alzheimer's at the time) was going home, both a discharge nurse and social worker talked with my grandfather to make sure he had everything he needed to take care of my grandmother. She couldn't leave the hospital until that had been done.
As Carol said, it may be difficult, but if your MIL is so fragile the question about hospice may need to be asked.
It's wonderful to hear you have a beautiful summer garden and you've been feeling well. That's very good news.
Lovingmymom, my deepest condolences on the loss of your beloved mother. I know Carol has given you some excellent suggestions already.
I definitely second her thoughts about joining a grief support group or community. Don't be shy about talking to a grief counselor, either.
Volunteering somewere in your community may be something you want to investigate and consider doing in the future. This may also be a good time to college or parks & recreation class on a topic of interest that you haven't been able to do.
Thank you for taking the time to share a bit about you and your mom with us.
I saw your note from a couple of days ago, and hope your memory is good today. Is the weather any cooler now?
I agree with you about friends being willing to go that extra step to make sure something turns out right. Plus, they know what sort of things you like and have a better idea of what would please you than a stranger would.
I'm glad your faith is providing you with comfort and hope,