I'm glad you finally got to talk to someone who could tell you exactly what's going on, but sorry the news isn't better. When Alzheimer's patients haven't been themselves for years, though, and have no happiness left, I guess you have to see the end of it with mixed emotions.
Regarding your hip surgery and diabetes -- I'm also diabetic and my A1C increased steadily in the months before my surgery; I assume because of the pain. My BG was very high in the hospital, even though they were giving me insulin (which I don't normally take). My A1C a few weeks after the surgery was almost 13. The next time, though, after I had recovered from my surgery and was pain-free, it had dropped to under 9, and it's been about 6.5 for a year now. So you might see a big improvement, too, once you don't have that terrible pain any more.
That does sound horribly frustrating, Dave. I'm sorry you have to go through all that; the situation is already bad enough. You must feel so helpless at times.
I'm also sorry you have to wait until next year for your hip replacements. I've had both of mine done, and it was life-changing. I know the pain affects every single thing you do, and it's amazing how quickly you feel like a new person with new hips.
Oh, Dave, I'm so sorry. Even when you know it's coming, I'm not sure you're ever ready for it.
You've been such a good son to him through the years of his illness, and what you're doing now -- just making sure he's comfortable without trying to prolong his life (and suffering) -- is the most loving thing you can do.
I hope you can find a lot of comfort from your family.
The situation with your family and your mother sounds so upsetting, especially when you're already dealing with your husband's Alzheimer's.
I can't add anything to Dave's excellent advice, except to see if you can find a support group through your local Alzheimer's Association. Being able to talk to people in person and get the benefit of their experiences, and just some sympathy and understanding for what you're going through, can make everything a little bit easier.
I just read this fascinating article on the People's Pharmacy site about people who have been "awakened" from Alzheimer's by narcotic pain relievers. Even though this has been reported by only a handful of people, I hope it will be studied further.View Thread
Margaretsdaughter, I'm sorry you haven't received an answer to you question. I'm afraid I don't know of a good way for getting your mother into bed, other than what you're doing. Perhaps you could find a caregivers' site, and see if there are any tips there.
I forgot to ask: Are you under a great deal of pressure to excel academically? If you are, that is probably the root of all this, and something that counseling or therapy might help you with.View Thread