You must be so happy to have a firm date scheduled, Dave, even if it's a little later than you'd hoped. It's nice to know what's ahead of you, too, so you don't have the apprehension about the unknown to deal with.
That is really dangerous for him to eat in a reclining position; I can see why you're concerned.
How advanced is his Alzheimer's? If he's in an advanced stage, he may not be able to sit up on his own. Does your mother try to sit him up with his back supported? If he tries to just sit up on the sofa without anything to support his back, it might be very difficult for him to maintain that position. He could need some pillows behind him.
It could also be that sitting up is painful for him. If she can get him to sit up, can she see a change in his facial expression that might indicate pain? It might be good to try to sit him up and ask if it hurts.
This probably sounds off the wall, but is there a mirror in the room where he can see himself if he sits up? Alzheimer's patients often don't recognize themselves in a mirror, and may still picture themselves as being young, and when they see an old stranger staring back at them, it can make them very anxious and even afraid. That's why some Alzheimer's patients are afraid of showering and bathing.
If it doesn't seem like any of those things are the problem, maybe your mom could make sitting up to eat sound like a fun thing -- tell him that today we're going to have a great meal at the table and when he's finished, there's a delicious dessert at the end. That kind of approach will usually work better than trying to reason with the patient, because he doesn't have the ability to understand that it's for his own good. If he watches TV all the time, she may need to bring a little one into the kitchen or wherever, so he can still see his programs.
As I said before, I'm so sorry you've been going through such a terrible time.
I couldn't find much about cerebral atrophy causing headaches -- none of the articles I read said that it does. There are people with cerebral atrophy who do get headaches, but from what I've read, no connection has been shown. It sounds like the headaches have to be treated on their own, but that would mean determining what kinds of headaches they are.
It's so frustrating to have a doctor you don't like but, as in any profession, there are good ones and others that aren't so good -- or sometimes, it's just a difference in personalities. If you try another neurologist, you may find that you like him/her much better than the one you've been to. I certainly wouldn't give up trying.
I mentioned cluster headaches in my previous post. Since I don't know how long each episode of your third type of headache lasts, I don't know if that's what it is. My dad has those for years, and he said that if he'd had a gun handy when he got them, he would have shot himself, they were so painful. As horrendous as migraines are, the pain from cluster headaches is apparently worse. Here's an article that might be helpful. My dad found that oxygen was the only thing that helped, but it did usually help pretty quickly.
I'm just curious -- why can't you get insurance until March?
This community is pretty quiet now -- not nearly as active as when you were posting here before. Please do keep posting, though.
I remember you from when you were posting several years ago. I'm so sorry you're having a rotten time. I'm on my tablet, making it a pain to type a long reply. I wanted to let you know I've read your posts and will write more tomorrow.
Two things in the meantime: are you able to look for another neurologist? And your second kind of headache sounds like the migraines I got for several years. There are medications available for them now, but I have also read that eating ice cream helps a lot of people, because of the cold's effect on the blood vessels.
How long does the third type of headache normally last? If it's fairly brief but excruciating, they could be cluster headaches, which can be helped by oxygen. My father got those and carried am oxygen tank with him wherever he went, just in case.
Wow, Dave, you're doing great! I imagine you see noticeable improvement almost every day.
I've lost about 50 pounds in the past few years, and 15 in the past two months. Even though I have a way to go, it's made a difference. I work out 5-6 days a week and have been tracking what I eat. My blood sugar has improved greatly and I'm down to one diabetes medication. Would love to get off that one, too. My big goal is to get rid of the CPAP machine I use for sleep apnea, and that's helping keep me motivated.
I'm so glad you're making such fantastic progress. It sounds like all your hard work has paid off.