I know that hormones can have a psychoactive effect, so definitely talk to your doctor about it. When I was on birth control I had zero mental effects that I could tell, but as we all know anything that affects your hormones definitely has the potential to affect your mood. Hope you feel better soon.View Thread
The "it's all in your head" mentality is pretty damaging. Psychological problems are just as real as any other problems, but they usually need a different approach to fix them. Ignoring that in a friend or family member is hurtful to them and also devalues their experience. If a doctor says "you have nothing physically wrong with you," but you are still feeling bad, then they should acknowledge the anxiety exists and at least point you in the right direction or give you resources to help yourself mentally. To me at least, it's irresponsible to do anything else.View Thread
I hope someone responds soon with a better response to your original question. I had one small thing to contribute however. Over and over I have heard people say that exercise helps their anxiety. The person who ran this board said the same thing. Moderate exercise helps your body manage the feelings and gives you an outlet. It also generates positive neurotransmitters in your brain. Whatever medication you take, this can help make it more effective, as well as mitigate any possible weight gain.
Now hopefully someone with more experience with medications will reply.View Thread
Due to the negative results on the tests, and due to the fact that it's really hard to get HIV or much else from recieving oral as a male, I'd say you shouldn't worry.
Regarding the herpes exposure, I wonder if it could be antibodies from an old cold sore or something? You can be exposed to various viruses that your immune system fought off and protected you against, but part of that is developing some antibodies. If you don't actually have herpes, and the medical people confirm this, then no worries.
You have my sincerest condolences for the loss of your wife.View Thread
I'm sorry you are feeling that way. It can be really rough. It sounds to me like your current supervisor is being inappropriate, but it can be tough to address that at work without being labeled a whiner. Is there a way you could have a quiet chat with one of your former supervisors and maybe ask their advice of what to do? Let them know you want to do your job but provide concrete examples of how you are being treated.
Or maybe this... you could come to another superivsor, or even your supervisor, with a list of all the things you need to do, and just say "I'm having trouble with this. Do you have any suggestions of how I could juggle these different tasks?"
Alternatively, if no one treats you properly, feel free to go to HR for advice. That's what they are there for.
You deserve to be treated like a human being. If your job is hard, at least you need to be able to do the work, not be swamped. Don't metaphorically kill yourself for a paycheck, you help pay their paychecks after all.View Thread
Hi there, and welcome. It sounds like your workload from school and work isn't making your anxiety any easier. It's easy to say "take some time for you" but little things like paying bills and staying alive come first. Even a few minutes, just breathing calmly, can really help. When you feel the anxiety, as hard as it might be, remind yourself that these are just uncomfortable feelings and they WILL pass.
You have the strength to get through this. You also have the strength to reach out for help and that is awesome. I didn't for the longest time, and it really hurt me. So keep reaching out to the crisis line, to us, to the counselor. There is help.
Understood about not wanting to burden the boyfriend. I don't know what your exact situation is, but sometimes it can actually make your partner feel better if you confide in him, ask for comfort, and then accept it. If he knows he is helping you, that can take his mind off his own troubles. It depends on the person.
It sometimes helps to break your tasks into little bits. Do a few problems on that algebra test, then take a few minutes to breathe, have a cup of tea, something. Then do a few more. Even if you are slow something is better than nothing and you will feel less anxiety the more you get done.
Breathing deeply actually helps more than most people realize. Get good food into you, especially warm liquids, try to get enough sleep if you can, listen to music that usually makes you feel good. Someone cares about you.View Thread
Oh... one little tip. I don't know if it will help you or not, but check this out: go to a dieting site. Like webmd fitness tool, or calorie counter, or something like that. It sounds backwards, I know. Here is why, though. If you go to a place where is a lot of focus placed on healthy portion sizes, and nutrition, then you can begin to see what is a healthy portion size, and what is too small (or too large) as well as seeing what your body really needs to live, and how much.
Then you can set goals of what you need to keep yourself going, and what kinds of foods you should have. It will help your thought processes, your hypoglycemia, and a whole host of other things.
First! You are not alone. It sounds to me like you have an eating disorder. But this is good news. You know why? Because if you can pin down the problem, you can realize that it's not YOU doing this, it's the DISORDER, and you can find ways to fix it. You might want to research anorexia nervosa and see if that fits you, or if you can relate to it.
There are people out there who can understand your thoughts and help you with them. Maybe your doctor could give you a referral to someone with more expertees. I don't think you are whiny, I just think you are recognizing that you need help. Help is out there.View Thread
You might want to do another one later for peace of mind, but unless you had blood to blood contact your chances of infection are unlikely, especially with a negative HIV test. Also, of course, she would have to be HIV positive.View Thread
I've seen ads for homeopathic remedies such as Anxietin, or the Bach Flower Essence called "Rescue Remedy," and wondered if anyone had tried them. If you did, did they work? I don't intend to use any homeopathic preparation because I don't believe in the theory behind that form of therapy, but I had to ask if anyone else had seen any benefit whatsoever.View Thread