Thank you for your help - you have good suggestions but will only take the latter. I have tried for 10 years and you can't get along with her. I had invited her to come with me one night for dinner and on the way home just simple conversation like "I think story hour is over for June now for our grandson". She says no but I know it is true. I mention that pretty house over there and who lives there now - she says no - that person doesn't live there. (I am sure it is true) soooo I decided to be quiet and get her home asap. You can't be friendly with her - maybe that's why she has no friends.
Anyway, I will take your suggestion about talking to my son - that is the way to go but will wait just a bit longer as my husband today is going to tell him I no longer am going to bring meals down at harvest and maybe other things may come up in their discussion.
Anyway, I tried visiting, etc - you run into a snag - there is a reason why she has no friends - sad but true - I returned a pj bottom to them last night and thought I would see her heads on - my son took the pj bottom and grandson wanted to show me the tree they are going to cut down - didn't see her but she may have been hiding in the bedroom - not sure if she was home or not.
Anyway, I hate life sometimes like now - I want a peaceful, happy life.View Thread
Thank you Dr. Farrell - you are so sweet - I did post on the relationship and coping board and frankly very sorry I did - I had many responses and most all of them are making me out like I'm the trouble making mother-in-law - I am not okay. I do not interfere in any of their affairs.
Believe me I don't - I will just go on and focus my attention on my interests and leave that problem there - I don't make trouble but frankly I am sorry I posted on that board.
Again, your response was most welcome and I thank you for it - many thanks again.View Thread
Help please - I have a DIL who is an extremely difficult person - she is impossible and no one likes her including her husband, my son.
They did have a child and know my son is staying with her now only for that. The problem is she makes up lies about me and tells her husband and then my son calls me and gets mad at what he heard - he knows how nutty his wife is but then when I explained what really happened he said I am sorry.
One example - my grandson lives down the street and is 2 years old - I saw him on Sunday on his bicycle and invited him to come with his mom - as usual he is inquisitive and came in house and went in yard and played etc - my husband was out getting us sandwiches and when he came home with our lunch I offered if they wanted any sandwich and they said no. Since it was Father's day we then had an angel food cake that I made - and my husband wanted a piece before he left so I did ask DIL if she wanted a piece and she said no and then asked if her son, my grandson, wanted a piece and she said ok - everything went ok.
Two hours later my son calls and reads me the riot act - telling me her wife said that I enticed him to come down to eat cake which they don't want him eating junk food and then said that I gave him THREE pieces which is untrue - I gave him an inch wide piece and cut it up in several pieces and put a little ready-whip on it with strawberries that I cut out. After my son calmed down he said he was sorry.
This is what I am up against ALL THE TIME - she lies or makes trouble - what do I do - right now my son is in harvest and very stressed so he asked me not to say or talk about this to her. Everyone is afraid of her but she continually gets by with all of this -
What shall I do????? I need some advice. I would like to go and tell her face to face to quit lying about me to her husband. I think she is jealous of me because I have a wonderful relationship with my son.
Please help me - what do you suggest. THANK YOUView Thread
I take care of my grandson who is almost 2 years old - my son and his wife live down the street - I only babysit Mons and Thurs - that's all I can handle as I am 66 years old.
The problem is his wife - he was going to get a divorce from her but think he may not or is weakening - everyone in the family does not like his wife - I'm not going to go into detail but she has always been bad news - has no friends - divorced the first husband but anyway my son is very smart but yet in this regard he is not.
My biggest worry is that as evil as his wife is - I'm afraid she may destroy the relationship he has had all these years with me and my husband - his father - he and his father have had a working relationship for years - his last birthday was a disaster and I'm not going to go through that again next year -
It is my birthday tomorrow - and I feel myself almost falling apart if he does not recognize my birthday or anything - my friend tells me I should ask what day this is but am not sure what to do.
I probably sound sensitive and know I am - am I being too sensitive to feel that I need to have a little respect especially on my birthday - you know birthdays were almost a big thing when I grew up as a child in my own family - it is the anniversary of our existence.
If I'm not remembered even in a small way tomorrow I will be crushed big time. I am almost bracing myself for the worst already. My daughter as always sent me a card and gift and am grateful for that. It is not I want gifts - I just want a remembrance whether it is Happy Birthday or a card or whatever
Am I asking for too much - as you can see I do do a lot for them with babysitting etc but if I make a big argument I could lose seeing my grandson which I am aware of.
But what about "me" and my sensitivity? Do I need to get more of a thick skin or is there reason to be upset.
What do the experts think? I would appreciate a response please. I'll do the right thing if you can tell me the way I should react.
Hi - my psych dr recommended a small dose - have been on it 2 weeks - I do feel calmer - only take 25 mg - anyone else take this med? Only bad side effect to watch for is a rash - so far no rash.
I'm not sure if they have to titrate up or not - anyone take this and does it help - they use it for a mood stabilizer - in my case as I'm a nervous person and am up and down every day - hopefully this will work.
Just checking to see if anyone have tried this. Thank you.View Thread