Hello. My name is Brian and I have high functioning autism(Aspergers) I have a really hard time communicating with people, especially orally. Not only am I awkward and nervous in groups, but it's really hard for me to get words out. Like, it takes a LOT of concentration to just get a sentence out. I have no trouble with writing though, so I thought it might be a good Idea to talk online to others like me. Everyone says I talk fine, but then they complain that I'm always saying "what?" and "huh?" after they speak to me. Its because my mind is trying to multitask; listening to what they said and scrambling to figure out what to say back. I also do that and say a lot of umm's and uh's to try to catch up with my mouth before I make myself sound dumb. It's really embarrassing, so I stay away from people. I don't know what to do though; I'm really lonely and am dying to make friends, but every time I go and try to talk, my mouth gets me in trouble or in embarrassing situations. And yes it gets me in trouble because I sound bossy sometimes; I sometimes see something that needs to be done at work and will state--very bossy-sounding-- something like "that floor needs to be cleaned". It drives me CRAZY because certain people at work HATE it when I do that and I can't help it, it just comes out like that!!
I'm not sure how anyone can help me with all that (it was a mouthful) but I guess it makes me feel better if I can talk to someone about it without feeling uncomfortable.View Thread
Hi, I have aspegers too, and I went through a very similar stage in my life at that age. I think you should find something he can enjoy, while being able to express himself. Does he like art? sports? I have PTSD and what I feel helps me a lot is reading and writing. Writing especially, because I have a speech impediment. Also, there is a web page (google meetup) where you can find local groups and clubs. There may be groups specializing in aspergers or kids with special needs. I also found it really really helped to have a counselor who specializes in aspergers or high-level autism. Another thing off the top of my head: you might want to talk to your doctor about the SSRIs because they have been known to cause suicidal thoughts in some children. I hope you the best and hang in there!View Thread
Being an Aspie myself, Understanding other's situations is really hard. It's hard to put yourself in someone else's shoes when you feel like you live on another planet (neurotypical vs autistic). Do you see a counselor with him? One that has experience with Aspergers? Counseling has helped me immensely; and even though I'm not in a relationship I know I can empathize with other people a LOT better than I used to.View Thread