My 5 year old has just been informally diagnosed with Aspergers and all of his bizarre and violent behaviour towards me and his siblings now makes sense. Can anyone help me with how to manage his aggression though? I have been beaten for the past 4 years and would really rather like it to stop!
on top of that his father, my ex husband is also likely Aspergers and is still punishing me for divorcing him 3 years on. He refuses to communicate, is extremely passive aggressive, narcissistic and is now using our son to get back at me as well. I am caught between the pair of them and whilst keeping strong, its chipped away at my confidence for years. I'm trying to help my son, but his father wont co-operate and is actually making things worse. It seems that trying to change anything evokes physical aggression from my son and verbal from my ex. It can make me feel helpless, impotent and powerless to support my boy. My ex is intent on controlling everything and removing any voice I have. Its exhausting.