Does your child's father have visitation with him? I've always kept a journal of what's going on, date and time explaining the situation a little bit and the problem that arises from it. Maybe the court system can help, you have to be able to take care of yourself before you can help your son. A stroke or heart attack can be brought on by extreme stress and anxiety. I learned that the hard way by having a heart attack. Two sons with schizophrenia and one daughter(not schizophrenic) along with I'm high functioning autistic. Their charter school helps A Lot, with the behavior; aggression, fowl talk, actions etc... and would let me know daily the situation and consequence for each action. The other parent doesn't even take care of himself having schizophrenia and tells the kids I'm a bad mother and took all "his" money so he can't take them anywhere or have a car to come visit. He has brainwashed them so much that sometimes they won't even hug me cause it's all "my" fault. I went to the courts and now it's up to me if he can have supervised visitation. Their "father" never calls to even talk to them, we still send him cards, gifts, pictures etc... cause they don't understand. I hope you can find help with your situation and things get easier. The journaling really helped our situation just don't let them use the kids in the meetings with court it can really devastate them emotionally.View Thread
I have high functioning autism and throughout life have been asked repeatedly "what's wrong with you" or "wake up", mostly by family(parents), friends etc. Being so "smart" they wondered why I wasn't "normal" in behavior. I play the viola, drums, bells etc. but couldn't play in the orchestra or marching band cause of extreme anxiety. Symptoms were high growing up then a hurricane of deep,deep depression entered thrashing my mentality to a liquid. Now more people say "what's wrong with you". It's darkness, anger and evil thought's brings a self hatred inferno to destroy your heart. I thank God that a friend took me in to a psychiatrist, I didn't want any meds either(my parents don't believe in psychiatrists or meds),but when I got stable and could see clearly it felt so good. I get scared now if I don't have the meds knowing what will happen. Sept. of 2010 my three young kids were put into God's hands to care for. I had a mild heart attack and it took a long time to come out of that. Every since that traumatic day my autistic symptoms have roared out more than I remembered as a child. I have lost friends, family and some self respect due to all this, sometimes I believe it's always my fault, but realize it's not. My emotions are messed up, I laugh when someone gets hurt then have no expression when something funny is said, I don't even have the light feeling that comes along with funny things, feeling boxed in makes me depressed cause I want to feel it but have no power over it. The color red makes it hard to breathe, if I'm overwhelmed I hide under a table, bed, a clothes rack or whatever is nearby and scream my self to sleep. There's times I can't get a word from my mind to my mouth and people will talk over me and I'm not done talking. When they don't understand what I'm saying it brings frustration cause I don't know how to say it different and I don't understand why they can't understand what I said. My words are very blunt at times of being challenged then I lose friends but why? They asked me questions and I answered truthfully, they don't like it. I even told them the things that are changing in me yet it's not taken to heart. I say all this to let you know you are NOT alone! I know how you feel. I can't recall how I dealt with all this as a child, I'm at a total loss and don't know how to recognize each circumstance and deal with it. "If it's out of sight then it's out of mind" is what the general public goes by but if we are so abnormal than why are we not afraid to speak the truth, am asked how to do things when they don't know the answer (which is often). I'm always asked "how do you know so much"? Who's the abnormal one? Yet we don't go around saying "What's wrong with you"? "There is none so blind than those who will not see". IGNORANCE is the problem, people are not educated about all this, and those that are, I believe to be the first ones to help in a situation or walk by without staring the whole time. For years I have been asking for more help for ADULTS with all this but it hasn't happened yet. We didn't want any of this to happen to us, but we have to have HOPE and FAITH every day to get through. You are Tremendously Blessed to have a spouse that is willing and wanting to help you. Try to be patient (not easy to do) with him, he's new at this too and doesn't know all the symptoms or how to help you yet. But he IS trying. I hope that something in what I have said will bring you comfort in knowing that you are NOT alone!
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I also have high functioning autism. My hypersensitive senses keep me from going to graduations, fireworks and sometimes even grocery stores. I can spot a person whose been smoking a mile away and if they come near me I choke and have to get fresh air then I end up leaving. I have tried ear plugs at fireworks but the sudden white flashes of one will give me lots of anxiety like flickering lights. Being this way since birth, I would scream and cry till I vomited. Every year growing up I wrapped myself in a blanket(head and all) then rolled up under my moms chair whimpering the whole time. To this day as an adult I don't even think of July 4th as a special day. People and siblings would always say to "quit being a cry baby" or they try to scare me under the blanket. If they only knew! Ignorance......View Thread