He's always going to feel a little different. All people are, his will just stand out a bit more. Find his strongest interests, and help him develop them. Then he can ask you to be involved to help him develop the interests. Talk to him, but no yes/no questions, get him talking to you.View Thread
Math and science are more complex, and therefore challenging. Kids with Asperger, are very high intelligence, and enjoy using their minds. Spelling is memorization without complexity, writing a skill almost unnecessary with computers.
Maybe get some post-it or other note pads, so he can leave you message not on the computer, and then they will appreciate writing a little more.
Some areas of science are strangely pushed without God centered. The book "The Language of God" is a well written book describing how science does fit with God's creation, which is all around us. I recommend it.
You have some similar kind of issues, and that makes you feel close, but it may not bode well for your children.
If you KNOW you can both be very loving, engaged parents, aware of small signs that you might try to minimize with good parental and possibly professional care, then future children may be less affected.View Thread
I read a long article on Asperger's Syndrome some years ago, from the internet, and made a copy of it. Maybe I can post it in pieces as a resource.
I am not sure what your concern is regarding Asberger's Syndrome and a diagnosis. I suspect I and my 4 siblings have it, and my older daughter has a mild case of it.
Aspie's tend to have a few very focused interests, and imperfect social skills. They seek out others with similar interests. We stand out, because we frequently want to be expert in that area, to the point of others either not being able to stand our expertise, or thinking we are amazingly knowledgable. We frequently are a party bore because we sometimes won't talk about anything not in our focus.
The bad thing about Aspie's is that they will gravitate to one another. One theory of autism is that it is a result of two high IQ parents with poor social skills, producing an even higher IQ child who is more withdrawn than they are. If they do not become actively interested in their child's development and speech, the slow withdrawal of autism can occur.
High concentrations of autistic children tend to cluster around technical companies, where very bright Aspie's work in computer programming and engineering. I am a programmer, and know of one extremely bright DBA whose now college age daughter has fought her own social and emotional skill battles all her life. Many Aspie's are solitary genius types.
If one self recognizes Asperger, working at improving social skills is important to feel more normal. If you know someone who has a single interest they focus on, and they can never stop talking about it, they are likely part of our diagnosis.
Can this spark some debate ?
My IQ is about 145, my wife's about 120-130, so our kids are more normal. Having few friends myself, my family is everything, so it was natural to spend most of my free time playing with and teaching my kids, so no evidence of withdrawal ever appeared. Well, for about a year, at age 1-2, the younger one would run and hide if corrected, or she heard "No." Never punished by me, would run away and hide under the head (feet sticking out) or leap into a hamper and close the lid. Sweet and sad. She outgrew it, but still dislikes correction.
The key for parents, is work at verbal games, even just to make single syllable sounds, and think out loud to kids. If you constantly interact and develop language with them, and play with them, there is no chance for an introverted personality to develop at a young age.