Have you filed a workman's compensation claim? Have you contracted a workman's compensation attorney. You must do both to get the treatment you need. You should seek opinions from spine specialists such as spinal orthopedic surgeons and spinal neurosurgeons.
If you can not work, then your doctor needs to document that you are 100% disabled. You will continue to receive 66% of you pay but it is tax exempt. You may be able to return to work with restrictions.
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I am sorry you are experience all this pain and health problems. I fully understand and empathize because I have been managing moderate to severe chronic pain for over 30 years. Click on my user name or avatar picture to read my whole story. I was able to keep working until two years ago. I contracted an attorney and applied for Social Security Disability (SSD) and was approved in two months.
It sounds like you are seeing the right doctors and will be having the appropriate diagnostic testing. Just be sure to get several opinions before having surgery. Statistics show that spinal surgery is only 50% effective for relieving pain and 80% effective for improving functionality. I have never had surgery as I have been told that I am beyond the help of any available spinal procedure.
I also fully understand your emotional situation. Please be sure to keep the lines of communication open with your husband, family members and trusted friends. Consider seeing a professional for help if needed. I know how hard this is emotionally, but you can learn to maintain a positive attitude despite your pain.
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