I am so sorry to hear of your frustration, I know when you mix pain and frustration neither gets better any faster.
I might be inclined to check out the new doc as this one, while he may be very skilled seems to be lacking some basic consideration.
I know at one point I had a toe to toe, in your face interaction with my surgeon as he did not seem to respect me, my time or the pain I was in. After that, our relationship changed and he seemed to be more on my side. Every relationship/situation is a little different. I hope whatever you do it works out for the best and you can get some relief.
I wish I could box up some sunshine and warm temps for all of you! After a cool and rainy weekend this week is shaping up to be in the low 80's with lots of sunshine. This is the time of year I am so grateful for my little corner of the desert.
BJ has given you some great guidance here, and let me reiterate please follow your doctors instructions and do not try to overdo everything.
I had L3-S1 fused and initially did really well. I was doing water therapy, walking for exercise and went back to a desk job at about 8 weeks. I over did every thing! Not good. At about 12- 14 weeks out I was in pain again and my doc was unable to find any specific reason for it. Time to slow things down again. It was a tough spring and summer and it took about a year to really feel good again. I am now 7 years out and do pretty well most of the time.
Listen to your body, If you are sore from sitting, stand up or lay down. If you have been standing for a while, sit down and for goodness sake, please be very choosy about what and how you lift anything.
That's a heartbreaker Joy! I would keep shopping around to the different pharmacies. I know you called the major ones but have you asked if they have a discount program? I joined(bought in for $35 per year) Walgreens and find even with traditional insurance the deals are better with their subscription program. I don't know if your meds are on their list but it does include several hundred drugs.
If you or your husband are veterans, you may be able to get on the VA prescription drug program without giving up your current doc.
my thoughts, let us know what you are able to figure out.
Hugs to you Joy and PACE yourself this week...I know we all want to do everything and have the holiday be picture perfect, but at what price? Maybe a little less effort and a little more time spent those we love.