The only time that I have felt zest for life is when I felt useful because I was helping people. I keep thinking about writing online articles but I just don't seem to have the motivation or the energy (because of chronic fatigue). But I do think it helps to have a goal to work on, even if it is a small goal.
You are certainly welcome back whenever you need to. You have come a long way as far as understanding your son's illness.
You do need to be prepared that he may stay depressed for a while because the meds don't automatically make things better. It usually takes several weeks and sometimes the medication just doesn't work so it needs to be changed. I know that it can be discouraging but don't expect a miracle. You will have to be patient with your son.
The best advice I can give you is to just listen. My dad helped me so much because he was willing to listen even though I was not completly rational.
I agree with Debbie that he definately should get therapy. And try to get him out as much as possible.
Again you may need therapy in order to know how to deal with your son. We can give you suggestions but a therapist would be able to give you specifics on helping your son. It can also help you learn to open up the lines of communication between you and your son.
I also get that I have hurt my family with my bp behavor and I am trying to change that. I am not married nor do I have a boyfriend but I have hurt my sister with my angry rages. I guess I am trying to make amends but I am not sure how because it brings up bad memories in both of us. As someone who is on the other side of the issue would you have any ideas as far as making things right between my sister and I?
One more thing Anon. If your son ever touches you again call the police. I know you love him and want to help him but it can't be at the expense of your safety. He does need to take responsibility for his actions. A few days in jail might straighten him out.
I know I have advocated being sympathetic to him, but there are boundries that shouldn't be crossed. Call it "tough love" and make it clear that if he does this again he is going to face the conseqences.
I am with Debbie that the situation is complicated enough that you need professional help on dealing with him. If he is drinking and being physically abusive then that puts it in a different light because you don't have to put up with that.Being BP does not give him license to act destructively. As long as he is drinking he will never get better. Alcohol is a depressant. He might as well not be taking any meds because they won't do him any good. (Please don't think I am saying that he should go off his meds, that is for the doctor to decide).
My suggestion is to call his doc and let him know that your son has been drinking. Perhaps his doctor can get him help. It would be good to tell his therapist also. He may not appreciate your interference, but in this case I think it is justified.
I think your son already knows that he has a problem because he has confessed it to you. But I don't think that is enough. He needs professional help.
By the way when there is substance abuse plus a mental illness it is called a "dual diagnosis". You might want to do some research on it.
I am truly sad that things have gotten so bad with you and your son. I wish I could do more for you.