I am finally getting off my pity pot (it was pretty uncomfortable lol) and getting my blood tests done! I need to find out what is causing this fatigue rather than whine about it all the time. It's time to get out of my "helpless and hopeless" mode.
I just want to add that it is possible that he is overmedicated if he is sleeping all the time. Again something to bring up with the doctor. If you know what meds he is taking you might want to do a little research into the side-effects and the usual dosages.
I wish you the best of luck. I've never been on the other side of the fence but I know that is tough, too!
WOW!!! That's a lot of stuff to deal with but I am glad that your therapist sees your side. I am not a marriage counselor but I hope your husband really is trying because it is not healthy for you or your kids to go through more crap from this man. I don't know if I could be as forgiving as you are.
I suggest that you go with him to his next doctor's appointment where you can express your concerns. His doctor is really the best person to evaluate his condition and whether he is able to work. If not, then his doctor can help him get on disability.
I agree with Debbie that he still sounds depressed and may need a med change. I think it is very difficult for people who have not gone through depression to really understand how devestating it can be. I did work for 14 years when I finally lost my job because I could not function anymore. It wasn't a case where I didn't want to work. In fact I was devastated when I lost my job because I always felt that even though I was ill I could keep a job and that was a point of pride for me. Now I can't work because of physical problems but I prefer to work when I can.
I guess my best example is when I worked swing shift and I was mostly alone and I had a roll of toilet paper next to me because I couldn't stop crying. When someone would come in I would pretend that I had a cold. After going through years of these episodes I finally had a complete meltdown, ending up in the hospital every other month and was finally fired from my job.
I am not saying that his situation is as serious as mine, I don't know him. But keep in mind that men tend to bottle up their feelings.
I think you have a legitimet (sorry about spelling) concern but please don't jump to the conclusion that he is being lazy. There may be more going on than meets the eye.
You might want to check out an organization called NAMI. They have support groups for friends and family of people who have a mental illness. They also have educational classes as well.
I think we all need to be respectful of each other which means no derogative "slang" And not all of us agree that the man should be in charge. While I have tried to be understanding about your (Davey) situation I do agree with others that some of what you have to say is offensive.
There are, of course, two sides of the issue when it comes to dealing with someone who is bipolar as I am learning. Even if my moods get to the point that I feel like screaming at everybody (particularly my family, lol) I have to learn to control my reactions rather than let them control me. It's hard work but I am getting better at it and even making progress at resolving issues with my sister.