Kudos to you! At least some people try to understand! I have given up trying to convince people that I actually do have a mental illness. Either they get it or they don't!
My brother-in-law thinks I'm a lazy brat. He thinks I am "emotionally addicted" to my meds. (I gave up the addictive meds long ago.) He also is in denial about the fact that I have physical problems as well, which would make it difficult for me to work right now.
But this one takes the cake (no pun intended)! At a birthday party of my nephew's, I had one of his friends tell me exactly what she thought of me.She accused me of faking my illness to get gov benefits! I thought that was way out of line! I did not know her and I hadn't even said a word to her and she thought she had the right to rake me over the coals! I felt like confronting my brother-in-law but it wouldn't do any good.
Oh, darn. Now I am getting myself upset again. I need to concentrate on having people in my life that do understand! PixieView Thread
You could maybe just share where you were and how you got to where you are now. Of course if it is too personal that's ok. But I really like to hear people's stories of recovery because it gives me hope. And I learn things along the way, too.
I think that you have to be ready to see things differently I think if someone is in the depths of depression, he/she should get stable on meds first. But I feel like my technique is good for helping me to maintain balance.
There have been a lot of really bad things happening to me in the last couple of years and there were times that I thought I would end up in the hospital, which I didn't want to do because there is only one psychiatrist there and he is a jerk.
But I think that sometimes you just have to roll with it. I'm getting better at "allowing " myself to have a bad day and not attach too much importance to it.
I've learned a lot of things on my own. Every therapist that I've gone to wants me to vent my feelings. There is nothing wrong about that except that that should not be the whole purpose of therapy. I needed someone to push me a little. And I needed someone to tell me that what I feel about a situation does not always reflect reality. Honestly, I often got worse in therapy because it encouraged a self-centered attitude in me. ("My feelings are more important than yours") I'm not saying that there are no good therapists around and I wouldn't tell people to stop it if it helps them. But this has been my experience.
I guess I've been learning that sometimes I can be my own "therapist." I'll try something and if it works for me then I pass it on.
I'm glad you liked my post. I would like to here from you what things work for you
I think it is time to take care of yourself. You are not any good for your family if you don't get help. Also it is very easy to get caught up in someone else's problems so you don't have to deal with your own.
I'm worried about you having a plan,, I would suggest that you do what the 12-steppers do: One Day at a Time.
I have to be a little blunt with you now, Puredian. You are making excuses for not going to the hospital. I'm sure that you can figure out your transportation issues.
Also, maybe you don't know that you can admit yourself voluntarily. You don't have to call the cops. or anybody else.
It is never too late.to get help...unless you kill yourself.
I went into the hospital when I actually felt like I was going to hurt myself. I have also made so many suicide attempts that I figured that it was better to just admit myself voluntarily.
If you want to know, I still have "what-if " scenarios at times. I don't think it's a big deal as long as you are not thinking about it all the time. If it just consumes you, and you can't think of anything else, then it is time to go to the hospital.
I think that you may want to ask your therapist about this too. I'm telling you my experiences but I am not a professional.So any advice I give you, you can take it with "a grain of salt".
But there is one more "opinion" that I want to put out for you to ponder. Don't scare yourself into thinking that you will have a full blown breakdown. I know this sounds strange after all that I've told you. It is good to plan in case something does happen, but I've met a few people that have the idea that they are destined for multiple hospitalizations and that they will never get better. Avoid those kinds of people!! Anyway, I hope that this helps. View Thread
I have used that technique when I was really depressed. It helped me realize that I had good in my life as well as bad. As for making me happy, I still had a lot of depression but it helped.View Thread