AZjoe OMG I could have wrote your last post the first time my wife had her first major episode wright down to being a Christian. I have learned some tricks to make hospitalization and the dealing with multiple medical professionals easier if you should ever need them. My wife and i are old pros at the major episode thing she has been hospitalized almost a dozen times. Some times it can be all about catching big episodes when they are small episodes and letting a psychiatrist adjust current meds or change them if need be. If you should have any questions or want some tips on how to make any of this easier I am here for you. By the way I am sorry to hear that your wife is having such bad episodes. I hope things get better for both of you soon.
bluecrow55 undiagnosed bipolar is hard. When I approached my now wife girl friend then about getting diagnosed with bipolar I listed examples of the behavior that concerned me and told her I thought it was bipolar disorder but there could be no way we could no what was wrong until she got checked out. I then told her that I was not going to let my concerns go away and it would be a constant source of tension between us until she got it checked out but I would never mention it again and it would go away if she could prove to me there was nothing wrong once and for all. I made it easy for her I gave her the name and information for a one stop mental health clinic in our area. I told her she would be able to set up an appointment with them and they would take it from there. No more question either way we could move forward and the argument about the unknown would be over for ever. She took my challenge to heart because she new that this issue was the only thing keeping us from being engaged and married. She set up an appointment at the clinic there doctor checked for physical problems there psychiatrist checked for the mental health problems and it was determined she had bipolar disorder. That is what worked for me and my wife but each person with a mental illness handles getting diagnosed differently. Some know there is some thing wrong and want to get to the bottom of it for there own piece of mind. Others can be talked in to it through some fast talking and or honest one on one concern or even pressured in to it. Then there are those who will not believe they have a mental illness until they have an episode so bad that it lands them in the hospital and or wrecks there life to the point they have no choice but to get help. For both of your sakes I hope your husband is not the last one I mentioned the ones that will not accept it until there is no other choice are always the hardest to watch. I do not have bipolar or any medical training but I have seen the above happen in my family when I was growing up. My cousins and I have gotten luck it seems to have skipped a generation. I am not in your situation so I do not know what might work to get your husband motivated to get help. But i hope you find some way of convincing your husband to get his manic behavior checked out so he does not have to find out the hard way. I hope thing get better for both of you soon.
Mick1987 I have a couple of suggestions. First you should see if you can find some one who will not judge you and will at least try to understand your situation to get your back when no one else will. Second you should fight to get social security disability.Even get a lawyer to push it through if need be. It will give you the ability to survive on your own and take the stress of needing a job off your shoulders. it will also give you time and ability to get counselling and medicine to get to the healthiest place you can. Any one including friends and family will not look down on you as long you are working on getting healthy and staying healthy. If they were to look down on you then you truly know who is on side/ interested in your well fare. No matter what I hope things get better for you soon.
cjpxx I like your post. I am glad I could open your eyes on this subject a little but if you are serious about knowing about bipolar disorder then you should check out the book called the bipolar survival guide written by David J Miklowitz. it is not a christian published book but the author does a very good job of describing bipolar disorder and gives some good ideas for dealing with the disorder. If nothing else keep the people who suffer from Bipolar disorder in your thoughts and prayers.
AZJoe Sorry to hear about your wife and I hope things continue to get better for both of you. If possible let us know what the Psychiatrist determines this to be. But boy does this sound like bipolar from your description. I have known more than one person with bipolar to meet that exact description of nice and trying to take on the weight of the world. Either way do not be stranger more than one person in our community has taken interest in you and your wife's story and I am sure we are all rooting for your wife's full recovery.
cjpxx Welcome to the board. Let me start by saying that I am not trying to be angry or adversarial with my response. But there is no one way to talk or deal with some one who has bipolar when they are severely manic or severely depressed. Some times talking to them at all is out of the question if the person is in to bad of a place. I have tried the slow and understanding approach with my wife it was a complete disaster. It ended with her setting fire to a trash can / our apartment and her trying to break the window of our truck with a rock before the police took her to the ER of there choice and she got put in the over crowded super mental hospital were they treated her as a number and not a patient even when her public defender got a judge to sign her release they made every excuse to try to keep her a week past that. Most likely because she had insurance paying 100%. Many people tried to give my mom understanding and trusted her when she said she had things under-control and she had things under control all the way to her self inflicted death. As for prayer it is a two way street just as god can work with the person who is ill. God can also give wisdom to the the wife, husband or other care givers to do what ever it takes to insist that the person who is ill get help before things get so out of hand. So to sum it up there is more than one correct way to handle every situation.
Welcome AZJoe: I to have a wife with Bipolar and every thing you have typed I can relate to it minus the children. I even understand the alone thing my wife and I moved to TX which is way away from our family also. I absolutely agree with DDNOS your wife needs to get medical help and medicine ASAP. I feel for you on that part because I can not count the times I have had to out stubborn my wife on the issue of getting with her psychiatrist to have her medicine adjusted changed or even admitting she may not be taking them at all. I grew up around those who have Bipolar and will out stubborn my wife every time when it comes to her getting help I pull out all of the stops, every trick in the book I can come up with and then some. But I will do what ever takes to get her the help the help she deserves. It sounds like your wife may be having a major manic episode. Do you know what your wife's manic activities look like? You may want to keep a close eye on the money situation and watch for over the top behavior. I have heard and even noticed when people with bipolar go in to a major manic episodes a lot of times they will do what ever makes them happy at the time with very little self control. Some women like to spend money in various forms of shopping weather they have the money or not or put all of there energy in to partying and or some activity with high energy required like over the top cleaning or exercising. Men like to go travelling or doing something adventures like start a new expressive hobbies weather they have the money or not. I am glad to see you on the board. My wife and i have been struggling with extreme bipolar disorder for over eight years. I do not have any medical training but have been around those who have bipolar most of my life. If you ever need to some one who gets what it like to have a bipolar wife I am hear for you. One warning it may take 24 hours or more for me to get back to you especially on the weekend when I work long hours. I hope things get better for you and your wife soon.
Cieramtay8 My wife has bipolar and I would never let her walk around telling me that she is planning suicide or having suicidal thoughts. I would convince her to get help no matter what it takes or call 911 and have the authorities put her in a hospital for observation. I have been able to convince my wife to get help for suicide no problem in the past. My wife is aware that from time to time her medicine needs to be adjusted or even changed if it stopped working or is unbearable to take and is willing to get help when she is depressed most times. It sounds like your boy friend needs help and you need to convince him to get help or maybe find help from some one who can convince him to get help. But this is your call you are in the situation I am not. Any emergency room of a hospital would be more than equipped to help him if you could convince him to go. I am sorry to hear about your boy friend and I hope thing get better for both of you soon.