My wife and I have been together going on 8 years. I am getting the fight or flight feeling in the relationship. She seems to think everything is fine, but it is like she has lost interest in me due to some of my Bipolar issues. I've tried to confront her about this but she tells me I am becoming "manic". I feel it is an excuse. The kicker is we have children which she is deeply involved in and she also has asperger's syndrome. Most people with asperger's have an issue with touching and feeling. It bothers her, NOW! Before she had been diagnosed, things were fine. As a bipolar "bear" I need that passion back to keep me feeling stable. I think? Or am I just being selfish. Thoughts?View Thread
@bpcookie- I appreciate the insight, I looked into dissociating, which this has happened before and now it makes sense. I'll mention it to my pdoc, which I have before and get some input from him.
As far as identifying when I am becoming manic, my wife has done a good job of it but lately she's been distant. That is kind of her way of letting it pass, as of late. I will mention it and see what happens. Thanks.View Thread
It been two times within two weeks that I have had a manic "Episode". I'm trying to find out what triggered both so I'll know for furture reference and maybe figure out what I can do to control what I say and do. My past two episodes have been very tramatic to my wife and family. They are freaked out when it happens. The only thing is I don't feel it coming on like I used to. (meds should be adjusted by next week, I see my pdoc) During any phase of a bipolar episode, has anyone ever told you about things you said or did that you don't remember doing? These past two manic episodes I do not remember, it's like I "blacked-out". At times I basically saw myself outside myself and barely remember that. Has anyone ever experience this?View Thread
Back in Feb. I had a really hard time handling my depression. With my meds and help from my family I got through the worst and pushed forward. Seems like that's the only way to make it through being bipolar. About a month ago, I began to become manic and not as stable as I was. Now, of course comes the roller coaster ride. Bad timing for me, I'll be alone for a while (family going out of town). Keeping busy will hopefully help. Trying not to go back to my old ways.View Thread
I am not all that open with people about being Bipolar, but those that I have told seem to think they have experienced what I feel. I don't lash out because I don't know what they've been through, but if I have the sense enough to think through my reply, why not them. It's irritating when a friend, co-worker or even my wife tell me, "yeah, I know how you feel"...... NO you don't. Things stay in my head much longer than theirs. Sometimes, hours or even days. So when something negative is said to me, it sticks around alot longer, whereas with others that are not so blessed with BP, tend to let it roll off.View Thread
no not yet. the thing is Bipolar people have a bad reputation for being considered habitual liars. I really think that is an unfair statement because in mania, we really do feel we can do these things. I know that this along with times that I have actually lied get crossed in her eyes. It really isn't comparing apples to apples. Sometimes I really do think I can pick up that car, or fly to the moon. That isn't a lie, its a feeling. this really sucks because I'm manic right now with feeling depressed. (mixed bipolar)View Thread
Thing were going great in my new life that my wife and I chose. We've moved from a busy city to a quiet town by the beach. I make more money, I live by the beach, my family is back together...for now. But I'm Bipolar and have Panic Anxiety disorder. I'm tired of this brain and it is killing everything I've worked for to be a better person. I pray, I vent, I try. I love my wife, but I do stupid things that I know are wrong, but I still do them. Infidelity is not an option so that isn't it, she just doesn't trust me with anything. She believes I have been unfaithful and that is engraved in her head. She claims we are together for the kids and that she is not my wife anymore. My downward spiral continues.......I can't get out and don't want to lose my family...AGAIN.View Thread
I really didn't get a chance to finish my reply last night. I can tell you that although you feel this way, my therapist says that it could be a condition or it could be a simple misjudgement on your behalf. Mothers have a special bond from conception to protect and do all and everything for their children. I had a very rocky childhood with my mother and things that my wife does with my son seem out of place. But she is creating that relationship. I don't know your relationships status, (married, dating) but it comes with the package. Im sorry that you're going through this but hang in there if you love her. My wife is a beautiful wonderful person, and though our son and I had issue, as he gets more mature and as I continue to get my help I find us interacting more. I love them both with all my heart and dont want to put them in limbo, our other kids included. My wife is great with my daughter from a previous marriage and I see that and it warms my heart. I try to do the same, but it is a struggle for me as well. Being Bipolar you think the worse at the worse time and it stays with you, throughout the day. So when I say I love you to her and get no reply, that tells me something. Train yourself not to feel as though shes ignoring you. Try to incorporated yourself into activities and form a bond with him. Hopefully this helps. I'm so deeply in love with my wife, I would try anything to keep us close and happy together. I guess it lies in your hands now. Good Luck, JMView Thread
Hopefully your Doc can find the right mix. I swear we're like experiments to them. I understand where you're coming from. I've gained 30 pounds in 5 months. But its worth it because what is important to me is still with me. It's give or take. Ultimately, it's up to you. I wouldn't give up my family and my current understanding of my condition just because of what I've become. My kids still tell me they love me and they are no longer scared of me. I'm sure things will turn around.