I have a great resource for helping families stretch their food dollars. The organization is called Angel Food Ministries http://www.angelfoodministries.com/Default.asp and it is open to anyone, no income restrictions at all. Each month, they put out a menu and you can order whatever packages you like. I've ordered many times and the stuff is good, high quality. You can order online and pay with your card or FS benefits then pick up your order on the date given.
Maybe some of you will find this useful. We sure do!!View Thread
I got lucky. My job offered long term disability benefits until SS kicked in. I had to pay the money back with my backpay but it was totally worth it. I used a company called Allsup to advocate for my disabilility and got mine on the first try.
My area also has something called general relief for people who have applied for but not started receiving benefits. In my location, you can also get food stamps and mediciad. It's not a lot of money at all but even a little can help.
Also, my state (Virginia) has 211 in place. I guess to describe it, it's like 411 or 911 for personal emergencies like rent, clothes, food, ect. You can check either online or dial 211 on your phone. They have a VAST database of agencies who can help. Last time I checked about 1/2 the states had a 211 system in place.
In my local hospital, they like to say this a lot...'Whereever you go, there you are'. A geographical fix might work in the short term but, in the long term, you are still you.
I ended up leaving work and, eventually, getting disability. Before that, I worked at the department of social services as a TANF, Food Stamp, and Mediciad agent. That was way stressful for me.
My mom is a huge source of stress for me too. However, I realized if I wanted to maintain a relationship with her, I'd be taking her back just the way she is. For me, that attitude shift helped a lot. Now, I feel empowered to say when she's crossed the line or to put my foot down. It's still not easy but now that I have some power back, I feel better. My dad never came to the hospital either. My mom came only once and I've been in the hospital a lot. I think they are glad I'm the 'designated nut' because then, they can feel better about themselves since they've dealt with the 'crazy' gene in the family. I'm not trying to make light of my illness, or yours, just trying to make a statement about what's true in my life.
You didn't mention if you'd tried including your husband in therapy or tried couples therapy. It might help you both to understand where each is comming from. My husband has been active in my treatment and, although I know he doesn't really understand me, he's trying to be supportive. When my husband was offered a job out of town, he turned it down. He didn't want to take me away from the people I get support from, including my pdoc and tdoc. I'm just saying, maybe your husband has a good reason for not wanting to move.
I know the hospital can be VERY stressful and produce a lot of anxiety.
I hope this helps in some small way. Feel better soon.View Thread
Let me start by saying that, yes, I am home all day. I am not, however, eating bonbons and watching the stories. Most days I can be found driving the kids to and from school, cleaning the house, doing laundry, getting meals prepared, or tending to our many, many pets. I also try to squeeze in a workout if I can.
It really pisses me off that I live in a house full of ungrateful people!! Sometimes, you'd think the words 'thank you' are lethel. Some days I'd like to shout at them, 'Do you know how much effort it was to just get up to make your food?' My family seems to believe there is a little fairy that places food on the table at the appointed hour!!!
Of course, everyone has chores because I flat out refuse to do everything for them all the time. Mostly, they are done half-ass or not at all so I have to yell. I really don't like to yell and, frankly, some days, I don't have the energy to yell.
My husband does try to help but he's a total procrasinator. Sometimes, it's just easier to do it myself. He will say 'thank you' sometimes but, almost as a afterthought. Or he'll say 'the house smells clean'.
And the rest of my family, uggg!! I always get things like 'since you're home' or 'since you aren't doing anything'. If I say no, I'm a bitch. If I say yes, I'm resentful for feeling forced into doing something I don't want to do.
My mom can be the worst. I think I'm her only friend in the world so she dupms her crap on me. I DO NOT want to hear that she's contemplating divorce or what her sex life with my dad is like. Just because I'm in therapy does not make me a therapist!! When I put my foot down, she says I'm being unreasonable or I'm just 'crazy'. This is the same woman who, when I confided that I'd tried to commit suicide said 'Why didn't you just kill yourself then?'
I guess my mom, dad, and brother are glad I was the 'designated nut' in the family so they don't have to admit they are nuts too.
Ok, I've got that out of my system now. Thanks for listening!!View Thread
Your right. My suicide attempt was originally an attempt to make the hurt, pain, anxiety, ect. to stop. I started taking benzo's, 2 at a time. If I didn't feel better in 30 min, I took 2 more. That went on for hours until, ultimatly, I'd swallowed 30 pills. I needed the static in my head to stop and, if I died doing it, then I died.
I know suicide is a very selfish action and certainly not fair to those left behind. But, it does make me feel bad that I've done the things I've done and tried to toss away the same life others would love to live (at least without the nutty part...LOL).View Thread
I am a total TYPE A and have been ordered into the house for 2 years. I cleaned and cleaned everything in sight, reorganized closets, finally got around to donating those old clothes and toys, and got WAY to involved in Facebook. All that took about 2 weeks and I was bored to tears.
(I'm an agoraphobic as well as bi-polar.)
After that was done, I decided to write down a list of stuff I wanted to do but couldn't because I was working. I found that I enjoy animals. So, I fostered a litter of kittens from ASPCA. It added some structure to my day (feedings, ect.) and gave me the feeling that I acomplished something. A LOT of non-profits could use your help putting together fliers or other mailings. Or, maybe you are more creative than me. I have an agoraphobic friend who makes soaps and other body products to sell on her espy store. Another friend makes scrapbooks and sells in her espy store, like the kind you add your own pictures too Or, you could take a class online like photography or spanish. The key is to find something you love and structure that into your day.
Lately, it seems, I'm losing a lot of friends/aquaintences due to various health issues. Some are in the process of dying now or have been fighting long term disease. I'm, of course, saddened by the losses and by the daily stuggles of others. These are people I love and care for and it hurts to see them struggle. But, it also leaves me feeling very shameful that I have attempted suicide and have frequent thoughts about suicide. (Please don't worry...I do not have a plan and have confided in all my docs.)
I guess I wonder if anyone else feels that shame? I mean, I'm suffering from bi-polar but am otherwise in good health. I feel terrible when so many others are stuggling to live that I'm thinking of dying by my own hand.View Thread
I can't say much for diet cause I'm still munching on cookies!! However, I do see a therapist and I exercise. I walk and do yoga daily. The deep breathing alone from yoga has saved me from a total meltdown more than once. I bought a yoga mat from Wal-Mart with a 20 min. yogo DVD. I love it.View Thread
Please seek help. I'm a fellow kitten lover and I know that baby must love you so much and wouldn't want to see you hurting or gone. Maybe, after you are feeling better, you can spread your love for kitties even farther. I am a foster mom for my local ASPCA. I take in mommy kitties and the babies so they can be raised in a loving home until they are ready to be adopted. My foster kitties have given me so much joy. There is joy in the world and you deserve your share.View Thread