I quit smoking 8 years ago after smoking for 30 years. I tried to quit countless times with patches, prayer and will power. I finally quit with patches and Wellbutrin and admitted that I would be just as anxious with a cigarette as without one, but I think what really helped me this time was joining a gym working out and swimming and I really don't know how to swim but any kind of movement in the water makes the lungs work really hard. After I finished swimming the last thing I wanted to do was smoke and I worked off a lot of irritability.
Bottom line you really have to want to quit and constantly tell yourself about the benefits like all of the money you will save, your clothes will smell better and you WILL feel better—you will feel like a cleaner person. Ask yourself if you can really afford to smoke AND drive. Also, tell your friends and family not to smoke around you. Good Luck!View Thread
I think you are a very strong person for going back to the doctors for help and not trying to handle it alone yourself. There are many who can relate to your not wanting to take medications period, but when cycling makes us sick that doesn't mean that taking our medications should turn us into a zombies. We have lives to lead. Like you, I told my doctor up front two years ago when I started back on medications that I would draw the line at two medications, three at the absolute most.
I hope you don't mind my asking, what medications are you taking and what are your reasons for taking each one? You know yourself better than the doctor (or me) but it doesn't make sense that your doctor starts you on two more medications just because you can't sleep. Does your doctor make other recommendations like exercise, meditation, nutrition?View Thread
The assignment was for me to think of something positive I can say to myself, a positive affirmation, to stop my negative thinking. It has to be something I believe. So far, I have come up with "I have the courage to be myself" which I chose because I often compare myself to others. I need to come up with one for worrying. The other part of my homework is to pick 5 things that are self-nurturing, without stress, that use all five senses. She gave me a long list of self-nurturing activities and I associated some form of stress with almost all of them so it was almost impossible to come up with my favorites but I managed: Listen to music; play with and hold my dog (some stress she jumps a lot); yoga (some stress being overweight); gaze at the stars; watch a movie; and, grow a garden (some stress afraid of snakes). I can make a list or be creative and do something like make objects that will remind me of these things. I even thought of searching for ring tones and notifications that I can use with my phone that remind me of these things. I'm trying not to over think it. View Thread
Hi Debbie, These sound like positive affirmations. My therapy homework this week is to come up with a positive affirmation for myself. I asked my therapist if my affirmation had to be something I should feel today or want to feel tomorrow and she said that was a good question and then she answered that it has to be something I believe. This is going to be a hard one for me because I might have to focus on my positive characteristics in order to believe in myself which I am not used to doing since I don't trust myself.
Be kind to yourself. That's a good one but only easily said for many. Hugs View Thread
Dear Techster10, Welcome and sorry to hear you are facing such difficult struggles with your mom and dad. If your mom was diagnosed bipolar just recently and she has never taken medications or has not been in therapy then she must have been having problems for years. You might have to think about the things you have done in the past that did and did not work with her (and your dad) and go from there. If she is a danger to herself and others then it is your loving duty to report her to the police. Her age does not exclude her from being responsible for her actions. Maybe if she keeps going back the judge will grant her a longer stay in the hospital so she can get some real help. If there is another hearing then continue to speak out to the judge about the hardship it has caused your family. You may have to use tough love with your mom at 67.
You can feel better though it may take some time. I have been tried many medications too and, finally, feel pretty good with the last medication change I made 3 months ago. Are you in therapy? A combination of medication and therapy can help you to feel better and support groups are helpful. View Thread
I had my 1st new therapist meeting on Wednesday. We reviewed all of the paper work I had completed in a long 90 minute session. She wants her patients to commit to one year, we have agreed not to make that commitment until after 3 sessions and we will complete an evaluation at the end of each session. She has agreed to offer referrals if we are not a good match. I made a decision to keep going regardless of the end result.
It's a scary process. I see how I am attached to her after only one session and how that makes me feel vulnerable. Therapy is lopsided because she knows a whole lot more personal information about me than I do her. However, there is now or might be someone in my life that I can be open with about my negative self-talk, my inability to connect and stay connected with people and make commitments to the things that are important to me. She does insist we will use CBT as the mode of therapy for our sessions along with my ACT workbook.
I noticed that she felt much more comfortable with me knowing that I am medicated and have a doctor that monitors my medications, and yes I did sign a release for her to exchange information with my doctors. I can email her but she does not want to be contacted for emergencies and that's fine by me. Since she doesn't have an assistant to collect the payment I had to pay her directly which created an uneasy silence between us at the end of the session then I quietly walked out the door; it's a bit unnerving after some attachment and I felt kind of small and needy and I then I felt that she was more important than me. I understand that no one works for free it's just that I wish there were a more comfortable way to handle that transition since there is no go between. Perhaps the evaluation at the end of each session is the transition and is just as important as the session itself.
Except for some ongoing mild depression I am doing well with Latuda my mind is not so busy and I'm not talking to myself incessantly. Although I can focus better during therapy, I feel so embarrassed to need a therapist at my age to have so many unresolved issues but she has assured me that I am not her oldest patient by far. I have temporarily borrowed a mantra from a recent reading, "I am a work in process." View Thread
I have put on A LOT of weight and need to get it off — ugh!!! I have been soooooo lazy and tired. The last few months I have been coming home from work every night then eating dinner, lying down, watching movies and eating buttery popcorn. I don't know what's wrong with me and I feel like I am fighting not to give up and on what I don't know. This weekend, I need to clean the house, do some shredding and fold 3 loads of laundry that have been stacked on the dining room table for over a week now. Then there will be down time and I will just want to watch TV and eat popcorn.
And, work in ACT anxiety workbook re 'avoidance' and plan for my first new therapist meeting next week. She's affordable and experimental.