beej, I'm so sorry that happened to you! I have been raped too. My therapist recommended EMDR to me too. From experience in time the pain becomes less ominous and the flashbacks occur less frequently. I hope that through EMDR for both of us that we can move forward and no longer be haunted by the trauma. I am going to try EMDR because its a chance I will get better and from where I am right now there is not much to loose. Something that being raped did that was most destructive in my life is it made me believe I was still victim expecting nothing better from a man so instead of enduring them taking it away from me again... I just gave it to them... it was demeaning and in no way brought healing! I am telling you that in hopes you will not do the same thing! I am sending loving positive energy your way! Hope that something I said is helpful!