There are a plethora of different medications that you can be put on, based on how your bipolar represents. Typically there is at least one stabilizer though, and depending on your case the physician may also prescribe other medications to supplement the stabilizer.
The appointment itself should be very similar to seeing your therapist.
Personally I don't think calling CPS was a good thing. Contacting her therapist, possibly. But CPS, no.
It all boils down to the saying about how you can't help someone, if they're not willing to help themselves. You can only do so much for her, but you can't live her life for her. As much as you want, you can't fix her. She has to be willing to be honest enough to admit her own things and get the help she needs.
One thing you can do - see if she'd be willing to let you come along to her appointments. Some patients have people who do so, kind of like representatives, to admit to things they either can't or won't, or haven't noticed from the outset. If she's unwilling to do that, then - as much as it will hurt - you'll have to accept what she says and let her make her own mistakes.
I'm sorry you've had such a rough time of it. The only suggestion I can think of is to keep trying.
Almost all of us here have been diagnosed, either quietly or openly, or have family members who have been. Not everyone faces as much stigma as you feel you are under. To some (like me) it has been a relief and a stepping stone - or a safety net, when things fall apart.
Monkey - my biggest problem is (surprise, surprise) forgetting to actually write it down! LOL
J - ouch, that sounds terribly rough. )= Hope things are better for you now...
Cooksie - honey-bunny, I've slept in just about every room in the house except the kitchen and the mudroom. If I had a choice, I'd probably shack my happy butt up in the dining room - I has THE BEST night of sleep when I was in there, despite the fact that I was only snuggled in a sleeping bag on the hard floor...
ps. we're Doctor Who fans, and he always calls his TARDIS "Sexy", so it doesn't have the same connotation for my son as it would an adult ... just in case anyone was wondering why a 7yr old got his momma a cup that said Sexy .... LOL