Yes, this is a public forum, and as Anon_527 wrote, open to all to see and read, so please be cautious as to what you're revealing in the way of very personal details, unless your comfortable doing so.
Having said that by all means pls. feel free to post here and join in the discussions as that's what this board is set up for. It is here to be a support to those in need and also a forum for people with questions, those seeking guidance, information, advice, friendship etc.
You can keep your name on the board here Anonymous if that feels more comfortable for you, and keep your posts in "general" terms.
Hope to hear back from you, most of us don't bite...
Welcome to the Board. Sorry for the late reply, the Boards are quiet over the holidays, but there will be many more ppl back on again after them.
You're situation as a partner can be a tough one, but I commend you on coming here and reaching out for help!
The very best things you can do as a partner is to get both of you as much proper education and knowledge as you can about your wife's disorder(s) learn, learn learn, know them inside out and what options are out there for both of you.
She needs to get set up with a good Psychiatrist(if not already) who's well versed in her illnesses and has a good history of treating them, or at the very least a therapist and a proper medication regime set up that's right for her. Finding the right meds can be a long difficult process for some, but not all.
The next thing is to surround yourself with support. You also need that especially if you have two youngster's to take care of as well. Finding a support group for partner's (ie yourself) is also a very good idea so you have somewhere you can turn to where people understand what you're going through and can offer ideas etc.as well.
Gather family and friends around to help you with the kids while your wife gets her new medications (?) sorted out. Seek out to mental health groups in your area, (and here) who can provide both you and your wife with guidance to other organizations as there are many.
Are you living in the USA? If so there are a couple of ppl on the Board here who will have some good contact organizations for you.... I will give them a nudge when the Holidays are over..
There is also a gentleman by the name of Matt here who I believe runs a Board for men of BP partners and he will be around after the holidays too.... just put up a post with "Matt" in the title and either he or his wife will get it.
Looking forward to hearing back from you and feel free to tell us a bit more about yourselves.
Welcome to the board. You might want to direct this question to the Dr. on board here as he is best qualified to answer specific questions regarding medications and side effects. Just put Dr. G in the title of your post and he will get back to you shortly.
Everyone has different reactions and side effects where the anti depressant and BP meds are concerned so it's tricky to answer this question. Is your Dr. a general Physician or a Psychiatrist?
Board's a little slow over the Holidays, but more ppl will be around after them.
That's a terrible position to be in, I understand all too well. You're right in what you say, that you have to put up your boundaries around this situation and say enough is enough. If your Mom is not willing to make a change for the betterment of her own life then so be it, that is her fate right now and until she does... if she ever does.
If she decides she wants to make a change and really reaches out to you to help her, then that's the time to help. Until then, there is nothing you can do in that particular area and you shouldn't have to listen to all the bs about him, that's unfair.
Stand your ground on that one, you have enough on your plate already and saying "I won't listen to that" anymore does not make you a bad person/daughter. As you say, be there with and for your Mom in other ways and have some fun together but that kind of stress you (nor anyone) don't need.
Stay strong Doodles, your a good person who needs some sleep.... now get up and do the pink elephant dance around the room! ......then go to bed lol