Being a constant in her life right now is her best medicine. It will held her pick herself up to whatever ability she is able so she can work with rehab. Remember that she is here because of her own strength. Being uplifting helps her help herself
debbie "works" is this Chinese junk phone's idea of self correct. Your mom will not be walking to much from now on, at least not like before her hip situation. This will change his life as well as your newly indelible presence. This will effect him and if his head is wrapped like a loose wonton, it may become stressful. My thoughts and prayers will be towards you and your
That's good about the surgery. I pray all will go well. I hope all goes well when she gets home. As for mom's husband will need to accept some things. It's not going to be easy for mom. It will be hard on her husband because his works will have an intrusion meaning mom's situation and healing, (if any), as well as your presence.
I am so sorry to hear about your mom. Even at 81, the hip is no problem yet, with the valve stenosis, it could be touchy. It all depends on the staffing available at the hospital. I would be hard pressed to believe they would touch it. Mom will more than likely need some time in a nursing/rehabilitation facility. If and when she comes home, she will need in home care. Her husband will need to "buck up". If he cannot do this, she may have long term care at the facility. Hard choices are ahead.
My prayers for you and your mom and your mom's husband.
Give her a bop for me too! My grandfather endured 10 strokes in ten years. His first stroke was a result of a double (bilateral) heart attack when Pearl Harbor was attacked. He knew what was coming. Each year almost to the day, he suffered a stroke and became bedridden early on. When my mom and dad met, she went to see him for he wanted to meet her. They began an amazing relationship that actually helped out later with my own relationship with my father. My grandfather died three days after I was Baptised and mom had taken me to visit for the first time. He became so peaceful, that he knew he would be fine and relinquished his spirit to God. An amazing but true story. You may have such a relationship with this friend from across the street. She is not done with you yet, nor is God.
This is not Bipolar but a learned response. When you say she is "whatever", it is a trigger point. She appears to be self serving yet she may feel she eventually gets to whatever it is she "may not want to deal with" . When you tell your daughter she is not living up to standard "be it yours or others", the trigger point sets off fear. Not like terror but fear of failing. This might even set her into a motion that intentionally places her ahead so that if she gets right with herself, she will get the other straight. In her eyes, because you do not see this, she goes to war. If you apologize immediately, you are not giving in to her but merely recognizing the fact that you do not understand where she is in all of this. Just an observation.
Current 41, Potential 21. I've always been deficient getting out and about. The last 4 years have helped that immensely. Since removing psycho-tropic meds, changing my SSRI, and increasing my dopamine levels, My life is nicely turning. I am afforded the ability to tap into all that I have gained from my MI and allow it to gain perspective on triggers and working through them versus spending time avoiding them. It makes more sense and creates a sure defense against anxiety and stress situations.
So sorrowful with this turn off events. Time is crucial for you both. You to keep busy and prayerful that the best will be done for her and he to have her faith in her Creator. Debbie has good insight. Let us know how all is going. Remember Faith, Hope and Charity. Best is Love which you have so sweetly found in this dear soul. Stay strong
I have lived inside of mental illness since the day I was born. 60 years. I have seen more than I have wanted. People are drawn to me because I do not have a clinical approach to mental illness. Mine is more spiritual which is far more difficult in open situations but one to one is easier. Results are astounding. I cannot be child in my delivery for it pushes people away. I am also an empath which makes things even more difficult. I have saved many lives through crisis intervention and taken individuals whom had no means of holding down work and caring for themselves to independent self sustained living. I only do what I do though the mercy of God for I have no formal education.View Thread
Take from each day, all that it offers you, return to it, nothing less than the very best that you can offer.