My hands may be tied re this topic, but I would like to try anyway. My mom's husband, who is an alcoholic (binge drinker- hasn't drank in about 2.5 yrs this time) - he was "diagnosed" with bipolar nos (though not sure if that is accurate) and he also has ADHD (?) and has some very addictive, obsessive, irrational behaviors I won't get into.
He also has brain damage that was seen on an MRI due to his alcholoism.
I have never believed that he's ever been on the correct meds primarily because his then psychiatrist would basically just give him whatever he had free samples of.
This person has MANY issues that no medication alone could even touch, but it seems to me oever the years that what he has taken has only made him worse, especailly now.
I have no doubt the reason he's much worse now is because he takes oxycodone daily (at least 3-4 pills) and smokes pot daily - says he has a medical marijuana card,which im sure he does - illegally.
I have recently read that 2 of the meds he is currently on have a major interaction warning - Fluoxitine and Risperdone - it's said that combo can be taken if needed, but with close supervision. Is that correct? He recently started taking risperdone instead of serequel because of expense, but, he says, it makes him drewl and his jaw gets weird. He thinks its from going off the serequel.
Personally, I think he should be weaned off everything and start all over with an experienced psychiatrist, but he is a terrible patient. I do pplan to go with him from now on to every doc appt he has because he can't cognitively track info or remember, and he more often doesn't understand what the doc is saying.
I know you can't prescribe anything to him, but from the list of meds below, would say it's no wonder he's a mess? lol Sorry, don't know how else to say that. He's one of those who will continue to take meds even if they make him feel horrible or have bad side effects because he doesn't realize that he doesn't have to, and doesn't communicate with his doc. I'm almost afraid to have him see a psych doc because of cost and how likely it would just be a waste of money for my mom. (you'd' have to know the situation) Do you have any thoughts or suggestions that maybe I could bring with me for his next appt?
Below is what he's taking (as far as I know)
Thank you Debbie Amitriptylin 50mg 1x) Fluoxitine 40mg (1x) Risperidone 4mg (1x) Hydroxy Pam 25mg (3x as needed) Metformin 100mg (2x) Oxycodone (3x) Marijuana (supposedly medical marijuana) but he uses it oftenView Thread
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Thank you Dr. G. for basically confirming what I already thought, i.e. that there was indeed something wrong with the combo of meds (and drugs) he is taking. Of course, I didn't know all of the details as to why, and I knew that his excess oxycodone and marijuana use was making an already mess even messier.
I will print what you wrote to have him read AND to bring with to his doc appt. He was not seeing a Psychiartist who put him on most of these meds and he still isn't. So I don't know how he will get on appropriate meds for him. I know that I can't make him get the proper help, but he has been willing to have me go with him to the doc. I know that he won't stop taking Oxy or Marijiwana, so I don't know what good trying to get proper meds will do anyway. That's his choice, I guess. I can only do so much. But I very much appreciate your input with this. Maybe it will cause him to see that he needs to do something. At least if I go with ihim and he sees a Psychiatrist, I will know what the doc says and make sure he follows through as much as I can. Other than that, there would be nothing else I could do, I dn't think.
Re metforman, not sure re the 100 or 1000mg, but I probably just looked at the mg incorrectly. Oh, and his heart rate has always been high, averaging about 108 and sometimes higher, but he has never said anything to the docs, nor the docs to him - that's always been a problem, i.e. him clearly telling his providers everything going on. Sigh
Thank you everyone of you who wished me a happy birthday (I had some nerve posting my own birthday, huh? lol)
Anyway, I turned the big 50 (shsssh, don't tell anyone!) but I don't feel a day older than ummm, maybe 29!
Seriously, though - we often say (when we turn another age), I don't feel like (fill in the age) - then I say to myself, "Well how on earth is (fill in the age) supposed to feel? How would I know since I'd never been that age?" lol SO, on that note, I don't "feel" 50 years old!
I didn't do anything special on my birthday. Generally, I don't, because I don't like that kind of attention on me; but I did have a piece of birthday cake for breakfast! lol I was still at my mom's on my birthday, but had to leave by 11:30 a.m.; her husband made me a cake the night before, but we were all too tired to eat it then; so we had it for breakfast! lol I had a bad cold and the flu at the time (still have the cold) and about 10 min after eating it, I thought I was going to be sick - for real! and my head became hot and I thought I was going to pass out! Fortunately, the feeling went about about 5 min later! It was almost time to get on the bus to go home!
Anyway, thanks again!
My posting on here has and probably will continue to be somewhat scattered because I'm still going back and forth to my Mom's. Next month I should be going there a bit less though!
Mel, I would move to a diff apartment in this complex (is that what you mean?) but the owner charges SO much more for the other apts - I think mine is the lowest because I won't let him come in here to remodel because I know he would just raise the rent (significantly) if he did. But the other places are on average about $200 per month more than mine! So, couldn't afford it. I'm already getting rent raise next month, and next year, he's adding $32 utility that we never had to pay on top of another increase!
Do people these days look for apartments primarily on-line or do they go driving around in neighborhoods they like? I haven't had to look for a new place for 27 yrs! lol What do you think is the best way? I don't have a car, which is how I looked those many years ago! I've glanced online and it seems so many expensive places - just don't know. Not planning on moving NOW, but it's there as a possibility. I will know when i see a place that feels safe to me - in my gut, I will know.
I'm reminding you - post a pic of your family tree today, not some day. lol I have found that "some day" never happens. lol
......or moving like Mercy suggested lol I would love to redecorate, though - maybe I wouldn't have to move then, eh? lol
My home is also my sanctuary. I love to be here and I feel safe here; I think that I have just got in a rut that has lasted too long; therefore, my apartment "reeks" of that rut, you know what I mean?
Though I can see that moving to a different apartment could do me some good after 27 yrs here; I don't want to either jump into it or procrastinate about it if I should move. I'm sure that if I see something that is meant to be mine, I will know it inside. If not, then I will hire you to redecorate! lol I couldn't pay you too much, and you'd have to find your way here, but I'd let you have the job! lol
Good to see you too, and I hope that you are doing well!
Hi Kitty, I agree, though it still does feel like some of that stuck feeling is lingering here in my apartment. But, you are totally right in that when you have someone to help and/or take care of, it changes everything! Otherwise, I have nothing left to focus on by myself; and that produces nothing good.
Yeah, I think you might be right about a new apartment - a whole new scenery! After all, I have been at this apartment for 27 years (minutes 5 months) lol The thought of moving doesn't sound very inviting right now because other than that I don't like major change, I like to feel safe even more; and I have always felt safe at these apartments. Also, with not having a car, it's conveniently close (walking distance) from the bus, stores, and various other places. It's just the perfect location for someone without a car. I know that there are other places with the same conveniences, and if I can find one that I can afford, and, most importantly, that I feel safe at; then I'd be willing to move. I can totally see how a change like this would or could do me good. I know that wherever I go, there I am; so I'm not fooling myself to think that a new apartment would make me "all better," but I can see how it could no doubt help! Thanks! I hadn't thought of that in like of my post! Probably because I don't like change! lol
Also, I was ALWAYS afraid at the house I grew up. Even when I was a teen of 17, 18, 19, and above. I remember that by then, my mom was divorced and siblings had either moved out or were out - and I began to feel terrified as each one left. I would end up either sitting on top of the kitchen table staring out the window, terrified at every creak, and end up falling asleep there until someone got home, or I would lay paralyzed with fear wherever I happened to be in the house when the last person left. I couldn't move freely in the house when no one was home. As I got older, the thought of moving on my own was SO scary. I was afraid of being afraid! But "funny" thing is when I moved out, from the very first night until now, not once was I afraid like I was at the house I grew up.
Having said that, there is still a bit of that "fear of being afraid" in the back of my head at the though of moving. Like this time the fear will be back, you know?
But I will start at least looking around for apts in a good neighborhood and see what happens.
I would not assume that she has bipolar. I would first take her to her primary care physician and tell him/her the symptoms your niece has been experiencing. I would write them all down and for how long she has been experiencing them before going to the appointment, and then give them to the doctor when you see her. Even if you think she may have symptoms of bipolar, it doesn't mean she has it. She needs to be diagnosed by a professional and specialist in that area, i.e. a Psychiatrist. But, like I said, first have her see her primary care doctor to rule out anything physical!