Hello again - that is good that she is taking her meds, and hopefully she will continue to do so.
It is always possible for people diag with bipolar to have relapses where that person gets worse for a while, but it's important for your daughter to always work with her doctor and hopefully go to therapy as well. But she can get her illness under control with help as long as she works at it.
I may have misunderstood something you said, or what you wrote may have been a typo, but did you say that you hate your daughter? Wow, that's a pretty strong feeling toward her. I hope that you will choose to look into your own heart to discover why such hatred for her so that hatred can turn into love again. That hatred only hurts you. But forgive me if that is not what you said/meant.
Also, maybe your family can try to do more than just tolerate her, but instead, accept her for who she is, yes? It is not her fault that she has bipolar. Maybe she has done some unpleasant things while ill, but it's an illness that needs treatment, and if she was misbehaving before treatment, then it was not her fault. It still causes damage, but try compassion with her instead of tolerance, yes?
Yes, your daughter can get better, but better doesn't mean that she will grow out of being bipolar or any such thing. But bipolar IS manageable with the proper medication(s), therapy to learn and relearn new and healthy behaviors and ways of thinking, and self care. If your daughter decides at any point to not comply to treatment, then her symptoms will come back, and sometimes be worse. So self care is key.
Most of the time, whether or not someone "gets better or not" depends largely on the choices one makes in the direction of health and mental well-being. If I choose to stop taking my meds, then my ability to function will go downhill; so better choice is to keep taking meds, yes?
Your daughter can and/or can learn to function in this world just as productively and with just as much fulfillment as anyone else who doesn't have bipolar, and don't let anyone tell her otherwise!
I'm glad that you found a med combination that works for you! I know how good that feels! I've been on the same 2 meds for 20 years, and they have worked well for me most of the ttime. Of course, I still have "those days" but the meds I'm on have been a life saver!
You are right, you are NOT a lab rat, but a human being with views, thoughts, opinions, dreams, hopes, and a to do list!!
Also, remember that you can say "No" to doctors who keep trying to fill you with medications that you may not need! I have refused various medications many times over the years because I knew they weren't necessary. I will never refuse medication if/when I absolutely NEED them, but I refuse to end up having to take a truckload of medication!
Hi, I agree re focussin on what works instead of what doesn't. I mean, why focus on what doesn't work if it doesn't work, you know? lol
So, what works for me? Well, when I was working, I loved my job and looked forward to going everyday. I'm no longer working there because the organization folded due to finances; but definitely my job was a huge part of my recovery. It's been about two years since the place folded.......so now, untill I can get myself back to work, I have what I would considere little things that either keep me grounded or keep me from totally going under into depression. I am diag bp 2, so I lean more towards the depressed side than the manic, just fyi.....but something simple like going for a walk. Sometimes certain people would suggest I go for a walk when I was depressed and I would get angry at them and think they were minimizing my depression, that is, until I actually got myself up off the floor and went for a walk! Wow, amazing what even a short walk will do! I've been pretty blessed in that for the most part, the meds I'm on keep me fairly balanced, but there have still been occassions where depression has dipped a little lower than normal for a while. Im in one of those right now, and the biggest thing keeping me afloat is that I literally force myself to get outside and walk. Not only walking, that's just one thing - also, I try to get outside myself as much as possible and look for any opportunity that I can give to someone else in need because that takes the focus off of me and how I'm feeling.
For me, really the bottom line is that I have to keep as busy as I possibly can - I have learned that I have a choice. That unless I am SO depressed that I should be hospitalized or close to it, I have the choice to get up off my behind and DO something, anything, even if it's just little baby somethings. I think sometimes we hope things will get better, but we're not willing to get up and do something to make that happen. The last I heard, no one is going to get very far if they don't get up and take steps. But it's too harrrrrrrrrddddddd! lol Of course it is, but we do it anyway, yes? If not this time, then the next!
I also do better with structure, which is harder for me to really maintain when I'm not working.
Hmmmmm, I thought there would actually be more of what works for me, and I'm sure there are that I'm not thinking of right now, but ohhhhhhhhhhh! lol How could I forget this one?! lol I suppose because it's not an "action" persay....but for me, the one "thing" that works for me the best is hope! Over the past several years, hope has been the driving force of my life - the kind that says no matter how bad it may get, it will somehow get better and I will somehow get through it because I always have hope! What is the opposite of hope but despair? When hope is lost, despair is right around the corner! My therapist has been the one who helped to get onto that path in my life - the path of hope.
Anyway, I'm not even sure I've responded in a way that you were asking, but that's what I have. If I've answered another question taht you didn't write, then clarify for me . lol
Hi reneegigliotti, when you said that you really want to know what works for people in theri lives, do you mean what works to keep one (me) grounded - what keeps me living above my illness or in spite of it?
Hi, I've always believed that I am far more than my diagnosis and from time to time, have also encouraged others of the same. I believe that when we live as though we are our diagnosis, we limit ourselves to being all the other parts of who we are, which is really so much bigger.
For anyone to say that I AM my diagnosis, tends to make one say and believe that they can't do this or that because, after all, I am (fill in the blank) and that's how (people with......) behave.
I'm sure I would have more to say on the topic at another time; right now is not a good time, I just thought I would put in my 2 cents worth.