Before, but with the caveat that this would only be for a date with someone I assume you have gotten to know a little before the date. A "blind" date, or a spontaneous one doesn't allow the opportunity, so in that case, I would suggest that you first see how the date goes - if you seem to hit it off, then bring it up. If you're skin is crawling or you find yourself ordering doubles instead of single shots just to make them SEEM more fun, skip it. Waste of breath on someone you can't wait to get away from.
Dr. G...another question, in the same vein as this one, so I didn't want to start a new thread for it. If I understand correctly, what it is you're trying to explain about the "lithium theory", than does that mean thinking has changed, or at least some heads have been turned (due to the research)?
Because I have always been of the impression that the opposite was true - a higher chance of suicide attempt or completion - seen with long-term lithium use. (even in spite of the "Lithium Hysteria" I touch on briefly below).
If ever a family existed that could in and of itself prove that "manic-depression" and bipolar disorders were genetic, it would be mine. With it, of course, there have been lots of suicides. Three of those, just in my generation, had all been on lithium. One of my favorite aunts believes to this day that it killed her son, my cousin, when he was 18. Li was no friend to my cousins/uncles/aunts/etc. Honestly, I only know perhaps 2-3 people who have had any success on LI at all (none at all before meeting them on this board).
Do you have any thoughts or comments for the idea/suspicion that my family's real lithium nightmares, surrounded by the remaining family members and most friends who were entrenched in "Lithium Hysteria" might have more to do with the "nightmare vs hysteria" as arms of the same Monster: on-again, off-again compliance with a LI regimen?
Talking to others here, who have said they never had any experiences remotely similar to what I've seen or known or was brought up to believe. My family's utter certainty that its the LI (and doctors) to blame in the end has always been extremely disturbing to me.
Plus - the "staying on meds" part has forever been my own biggest healthcare sin. I'm terrible with any and all, not just the psych ones. I'm lucky if I manage a 5-day Z-pak without missing a dose by day 2, or just skipping the last 1 or 2 if I feel better sooner.
Did I just answer my own question....sort of?View Thread
YAY!!!! I'm so happy you're still posting here. I've missed you TONS too.
I remember the last time we chatted on messenger that you had this latest awful and painful health problem. I sure hope they've been able to at least help you get some relief. Its not like you needed something else making you feel like dog vomit some days. You never show it though. I wish I could be half as lovely and wonderful to everyone on my best days (especially the last 3-4 yrs...I just as soon shove some people in front of a bus rather than gag down another heaping helping of their stupid.
sorry, for those who might be reading this and thinking "omg, who is this snidely, foul mouthed, vicious shrew? Hope she doesn't stay long!" please know hope is not lost. rant coming shortly that should help shed a little light on the true object/s of my current fury. (not that ya have to read it. I'm not pimpin' for an audience...but I am starting to wish more than ever that I would have moved to Europe when I had the chance, back around 1999-2000.
Oh, how cool is THIS??? I remember when this was a brand new post. Who knows how many posts deep my first reply was. Here's a new one for today:
1. Calling my bipolar a "behavioral health need" - That's insulting as all get out (imo).
2. Calling bipolar my "problem" (rather than illness)
3. Only remembering I have an illness when you want to use it as an excuse for my not agreeing with you (as if that's the only *possible* explanation).
4. Anyone who knows more about what my bp is like than I do (because they know someone else who "has" it, or because they have a friend who knows someone with a cousin who's husband's nephew took a girl to prom who is bp, or worst of all - they saw something about it on tv, in a movie, in a magazine, etc. Bite me.).
5. The Guilt Trip about "others" who are "worse off" - Yes, I know this, so are you saying that because I don't have leprosy that I should just be grateful and not seek health care? Jerk.
6. ANY assumptions regarding my intelligence made based on knowing I have bp, or being talked to or treated as though I'm 'not wrapped tight' and 'not that bright'. I'll cross cerebral swords with one of them any day, all day, every day. Go ahead - try and talk me down. Jerk.
7. Ppl who use it as a reason to blame you for ANYTHING, sometimes to where you have to prove their "theory" impossible before they'll even begin to think they might be "mistaken".
8. Anyone who even hints that mental illness isn't "real" or that we just "want attention" (pulllease!)
9. Hearing so-called "advice" givers warn people to "avoid" someone with bp.
10. Anyone who thinks that "mind over matter" or going to church or any other "fix" that refuses to see or acknowledge a medical problem.
I could probably list another 10 in less than 5 min., but I shall spare all of you since I know you get it. View Thread
Okay, this thread is what? 2-3 yrs old or so??? Does that not make it a National Treasure? It made my day to see that it's still on the front page. I can think of 10 ways about every 10 minutes, and just for one - the top of my list right now would be if anyone removed this historical collaboration. It's a friggin' piece of art. (besides...it IS a very real, unsanitized (mostly) and non-politically correct snapshot of a wide variety of people and opinions, likes and dislikes - ie, evidence that just because we share a common disorder with our brains, we are not all exactly alike and do not need, want, require or even care about the same things - but when we do - it's often deeper and more intense than we're equipped to cope with 100% of the time. Nobody is. (feeling somewhat on the resentful side this week when the new tdoc told me that maybe a little "PollyAnna" type thinking would be good for me. HUH???? To quote the great "Wayne" of the world that shares his name.... "A SPINCHTER SAYS WHAT???"