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No hard feelings at all. Have a good week, I'll be back late Thursday.
MaryView Thread
I do not disagree that you may have heard your IOP Councelor tell groups that All make stuff up.
What I do question is how this Councelor supports this theory. Was a global study done on every person alive? Was this based in fact? Was this an assumption? What research does this Councelor present in evidence of the theory?
As you stated... "it is what it is." Just your IOP Councelor's theory and your belief.
I'm sorry you feel a need to leave the board over a simple dialogue, a communication of individual thoughts, feelings and expressions, and a conversational debate on the many sides of theories. I will not speak for others, only myself. I would like it if you stayed, I would be sad if you were to leave but I know you must do what is best for you. I love you SB. We have gone through much on the board. We are all human and suffer from the human condition of individuality. This is what makes us all unique. We are all perfect in our imperfection, after all, God created us all and God does not make mistakes.
Hugs to you SB.View Thread
MaryView Thread
best to you! hope you have a good trip and also have a fun time with your grandchildren!!
Safe travels and wishing you a good time! Enjoy each other cuz its all we gots.
meView Thread
Do you have your own councelor? That is where I would start. I don't know nor do any of us the scope of this issue???
You left him 2 mos. ago... Was there a reason why you left him?
I kinda gather your staying with your folks??? if so then they do have a right to voice their opinion however, that still doesn't mean you have to do what they want you to do.
I hope you will talk to a councelor and learn what you can do to make you're life and hopefully the marriage better. If you cannot keep yourself safe and are suicidal please call a suicide prevention line. This community is not very active.
If at all cost please call 911 if you cannot keep yourself safe.
I know it's really hard ....Hang tough! sending you good vibesView Thread
We never stop being a parent.... Life is a treasure for us and I hope you can dig you're heels in and stay the course!!
No one said it would be easy eh?? Stupid thing to say but its true. We have these huge challenges trials and errors and that is what we are suppose to do. We learn from these things and also from the beauty there is in the world.
Sometimes when its so dark and cloudy we have a hard time seeing anything other than our pain. Take a few minutes and go outside and see how many beautiful things there are in nature. Even if you're in the city OK?? Look at your special wonderful children and their faces. What are they expressing. Watch your children as they sleep and see the peace you can have too.
It's a constant work we do ..... Sometimes its easier sometimes its harder.. I really do speak from my heart and hope that the going gets easier soon.
God speed...
sbView Thread
I WISH PEACE AND JOY FOR YOU AS WELL AS THE KNOW HOW TO GET THRU THIS OF OURS
SPECIAL HUGGERS AND LOVE TOMORROW MAY 13 2013
BTW I MAY TYPE IN LARGE LETTERS.IT JUST MEANS I'M EITHER
!) UPSET BUT NOT AT ANYONE ON THESE FORUMS
2) HAPPY
3) HAVING A HARD TIME PLEASE DON'T THINK I EVER IAM MAD AT ANYONE HERE! NOT WHO I AM.View Thread
they don't get the whole thing. So basically it comes down to that most people don't get mental illness.View Thread
THERE WILL BE NO VISITAITON. ONLY a funeral and reception after the funeral. Yes I will remember Mary that God is by my side. That is really great advice and I see God is talking thru you!
Yes I can be a pretender. there's a 60's guy that sings The Pretender" its what I ended up being all my life to afraid to live life on lifes terms. I guess?? g nite mary. thank you for answering my post. it means a lot! I will seriously mull over all you have said. I've had a few people go out that I had big issues with especially some who were at one time in my life very big staples in my life.
GOTTA REMEMBER IT IS WHAT IT IS AND FORGEEET ABOUUUUT IT.View Thread
yes I get the part about your mother not making amends. sicko witch. sorry but I had to say that! because my parents were alcoholics I decided that because they were sick that was a pretty good excuse sometimes for what they did. because of my own illness' I can recognize it .... but can't forgive myself very easily.
that's interesting you married at 19. I was 20 when I did and have been married to the same man for over 3 decades. WOW! are we ageing mary??!!
My parents and bro never apologized to me either. Tho they didn't sa me they were in other ways very abusive. Neglectful parents, strict strict strict father, emotionally unstable mother which i'll always wonder if she most likely had a mental illness.
my brother is very manipulative and controlling and a braggart.
I have not been talking to him for 6 years. I talked to him recently for a very short time. It was ok. don't plan a long relationship with him. ick!
I'm glad you were able to spend the time and try to do the reach out. I think it's really rotten she never got it!!!!!
I'm about ready to fall asleep mary so I will go now. God speed
there were army helicopters close to my house today and it really has me bothered. i'm so sick of the hubbub in every day life.
sighView Thread
Something I have tried that really is very helpful is:
GOD
I will say Satan go away and leave me alone and then I will pray the Lords Prayer and this has been real good when I can do it. It's just a matter of decidng not to suffer anymore I guess?!
I'm sorry to hear you are struggling! I really think that is beautiful your signature!! YAY!
You do know me but may not remember me. It's been a while since i talked to you here. I'm usually on sh board.
God speed friend!!!!! All we can do is one day at a time
Thanks!View Thread
I hope you will be able to copy and paste this name into your browzer and find some help. The mindfulness videos are really good.View Thread
i read on dil fb page all about her relatives being with baby and how great her mom is. prob for me is they skype and my son doesn't even take the incitive to call me only texts once in a while unless i inciate.
i'm so sick of this. theres been some hard feelings started by dil against me that were extremely bad and then in retaliation against her by me just as bad.
i sh. wanna do that tonight an dholding off cuz i don't want them to win. took more antihistamines in the hopes of getting sleepy and getting out of bad physcial pain that nothing seems to help tonight.
im mad sad disappointed deceived hurt blamed shamed and sometimes its just plain to hard to go on. tomorrow is mondayh and a work day and have so much to do. i'm freakin already. ihave group in afternoon but its suppose to snow and the group is a 40 min drive from me. its been stupid snowin on mondays for som reason and i missed group last week.
i don't know if my pcp will call cuz i'm one big hurtin machine! new shoes didn't help. thank you for reading. my other side is a gentle giant (i'm 5'10") and a woman! i think i'm getting sleepy now. yeah how quick was thatView Thread
WOW! I hated the dx first but now i'm beginning to think yeah this is how i am along with the schizoaffective.
Perhaps many of you will feel o that gal is nuttier or how could what i'm going to say here work??? I never thought really that it would work either BUT IT HAS.
I'm not a religious fanatic but I am spiritual. So I was talking to my t and I have been struggling with a lot of suicide attempts and self harm. I don't know how we got on the topic of God b ut we did.
She told me to just tell Satan to leave me alone and to go away. On Thurs. morning i think it was I flipped out big time and couldn't find any help and i really wanted to sh. I was frozen as we all get. I kinda was fighting the urges however, it was beginning to go downhill real fast. Finally I relented and thought ok I'll try this. "Satan you are not welcome to be a force in my life Go away!!!. and then i said the lords prayer" I've never had anything in my life work like this!!! I had the same intensity happen the next day. Again I was in huge dispair and squirrely as all get out!! I did the same thing as i wrote above. It worked again!
The thing about this is you know how ya still stay urged throughout the day?? well it left me. NO KIDDIN! it left me both times. NOTHING has ever worked for me. I've sh'd since i was a kid and stopped for probably 6 years in adolescents to young teen and then i started drinking and pot.
I still believe in the dbt skills don't get me wrong. I just can't get over the actual leaving of these feelings and sensations with the God thing.
I asked my hubby yesterday if i've always been having crisis since he knew me and he's known me since i was 19. he said yeah i've been flipped out since he met me with sometimes times of betterment.
So we've been married for 34 years so whom better to know who i am?? Thank God I have a really great couple of t's whom I work with and I've finally accepted my PDOC. I don't really know the nurse who gives me my injections of invega. Have two disorders as mentioned above. Tho my life is topsy turvey most of the time today i have clarity and that's all that matters. Is the day you're in.
God speed.View Thread
I had sucess earlier in my life, this was b4 any diagnosis.
Since then my weight has been on a steady incline.View Thread
I find that I don't respond well to the "tough love" statements or attitudes. It is particularly upsetting to me. I also don't deal well with ultimatums. I find that a calm, reasonable approach is what gives me the best results. Don't be heartless, either -- emotions are important and we borderlines apparently also feel them more intensely than others do. Be empathetic and understanding and make your daughter feel that she is loved, important, and understood.
Each of us is different, but that's what has helped me.View Thread
i dont really have the money for my medication. my healthcare doesnt cover any mental illness examination. i just started with my life. living without a family. im the only one taking care of myselfView Thread
I hear the classic "egomaniac with an inferiority complex" in your writing. I have found that with borderline disorder I am constantly trying to prove that I am loveable. I garner my self worth by how much people use me. I am working on letting the world turn without me and I am concentrating on how to get my own house in order.View Thread
I have accepted that this disorder has run my whole life and I am really miserable. I want to be able to have a normal relationship with someone without giving up my whole identity. I would like to know that there is hope and solutions that are out there.
I tried DBT but I learned that I don't know what soothing feels like. I was always on my own when I needed some comfort so I don't have that in my skill set. It doesn't seem to be something that anyone can explain or even understand. Sometimes I think I say things that are true for me but people who didn't live my life cant understand and they don't really believe me.
I hope there are some ideas for me I look forward to hearing them.View Thread
The hardest part of bpd is that people just don't understand how they let me down. To them it is no big deal but to me it is life or death. The reality is that it is no big deal and what gets me livid is not really life changing but to me it is a pattern of being disappointed that continues.
I'm working on trying to let things roll off my back but when the nerve is struck I react. Luckily I have been able to keep my temper in my head but it is very uncomfortable.View Thread
I'm finding that the whole over thinking and the catastrophising cannot be helped with meds. I am now trying to get help with that but people have a hard time understanding the agony that comes along with it.
I am reaching out to people and trying to explain that I don't know what it feels like to be comforted so when I try to self sooth I don't know what feeling I am supposed to have. none of this is easy but I'm still trying.View Thread
The best I can offer you is to look up borderline in the DSMIV. Or go on line to see if you meet the criterior for the disorder. I was diagnosed in 2005 but didn't really believe it until recently. This is not a popular illness and treating it is hard. I am finding that I am having to find solutions on my own which is sort of a contradiction because my best thinking has me in agony. I keep searching for the key to help me learn how to think right.
One of the traits of BPD is the instability of relationships that is a constant for me. I fall in love quickly and I love desperatly but when it's over I walk away without a thought. Maybe you are in a better place because you are committed for the long haul.View Thread
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