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Sometimes it so difficult dealing with news and then once you have reacted in such of manner that not yourself...

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I'm strong willed and I tell it like it is. I make mistakes, I'm sometimes out of control, but I love and give with all my heart. Have patience with me as I heal.

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I did alot of yelling and screaming over the weekend. I tried to take some aggression out in a healthy way. I did...

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Reply: When this disorder becomes dangerous..

It's been a week since you posted and I wonder how things are now. My opinion is to follow your instincts....

I'm strong willed and I tell it like it is. I make mistakes, I'm sometimes out of control, but I love and give with all my heart. Have patience with me as I heal.

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Reply: My Life has succumbed to my disorder

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I'm strong willed and I tell it like it is. I make mistakes, I'm sometimes out of control, but I love and give with all my heart. Have patience with me as I heal.

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I need so much reassurance. You know the movie "101 First Dates"? I think that's like, finally, I've discovered,...

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I am sorry how you feel. I have felt the same way. You have this outlet and you are doing what you can to...

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I can attest to the thoughts of sadism toward other humans, though I'm a 26 year old male. I don't feel bad...

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Actually, I hear discussion often in the professional arena. Amongst the mental health diagnosis, typically...

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Actually, I hear discussion often in the professional arena. Amongst the mental health diagnosis, typically the Dx borderline personality is referred to as "created, not born or injured in this way". What that usually refers back to is one's early childhood/early development stages. The theory is that somewhere during early developmental stages in a child's life, there is a deficit, or lack of very important bonding during these stages. This does not mean that a person diagnosed with borderline personality had horrible parents who abandoned them, however, there are many links to abandonment, sexual, physical and/or emotional abuse with borderline personality disorders. However, on the organic question, there is a lot of talk right now about how there seems to be a strong commonality between Bipolar Disorder sharing a diagnosis of Borderline Personality Disorder.
(On the flip side, there are many people who have been abused or neglected-who don't have a diagnosis of bpd).
The intriguing thing about borderline personality disorder is this person is typically a survivor. They are often gifted with the ability to read people in the blink of an eye, and can be very resourceful. The part about having bpd that I see over and over is that whatever has happened to create such a survivor,such a powerful, unique human being, can also work against them in social and relationship areas. Someone who learned at a very young age to "protect" themselves often seems to have a difficult time trusting others. For example, I spoke to someone recently who said "others aren't important", but almost in the same sentence, said "I really wish that I could have a relationship with xxxx". She was torn between her instincts to protect herself emotionally, and her desire to not be alone anymore. She was torn between her thought processes of "hurt him before he hurts me" and just wanting to have a simple relationship without all of the oldthought patterns she was used to. Medications can help with some depression or anger that comes along with the circumstances of this particular diagnosis.Medications not being very effective for symptoms of this particular diagnosis could also be further evidence of borderline Dx not being organic. However, Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) is what the mental health community is strongly encouraging as far more successful than medications. (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy as well). These types of therapies can help a person take a look at the actual thought processes and patterns that might otherwise lead them to harmful behaviors. This remains the largest approach for mental health professionals for helping someone diagnosed with borderline.
Organic issues would most likely be a different primary diagnosis, with symptoms and behaviors that mimic borderline personality disorder. Does this make sense? For example, someone with a recent organic diagnosis might receive schizoaffective disorder, and present with symptoms like isolation-then clinginess, anger-then manipulate with making others sympathize with them. These could be symptoms similar to borderline personality disorder, however, they will probably be viewed as symptoms of the diagnosis-schizoaffective disorder.

Remember also, that a person can have more than one primary mental illness diagnosis, and also have a primary personality disorder diagnosis also.So it is possible for someone who has a borderline personality diagnosis to have an organic brain issue going on, but organic issues alone most likely will not generate a borderline personality diagnosis. I hope this helps. If you're interested there is a book titled I hate you, don't leave me". It's an older book, so some theories have changed,but the general idea remains true today. You may find the book's concepts of the early developmental stages interesting. Take it with a grain of salt though, just like my reply-it's what others have seen. Use what works for you! I hope this helps.Take CareView Thread

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Thank you for respecting my expression of G-D!he is my entire life!!! my only reaso for holding on!!! I...

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I have someone up my sleeve you can contact -- she's at Bright Horizons (the consumer-run...

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Thank you so much for your encouragement. The group setting makes me nervous but I do want to get better and...

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Kitten... I would like to tell you some things... I lived in Kansas until I moved away four years...

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Second that. Mary's suggestion of taking your husband to counseling is good. Also keep in mind that...

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I second what Mary suggests. I have a lot of relatives in my life who don't know what it's like to...

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Just wanted to let you know that I read your messages. I'm working on pure adrenaline right now and...

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borderline personality or bi polar?

these 2 are very similar its hard to tell which one my sister is i know it runs in the family of a...

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these 2 are very similar its hard to tell which one my sister is i know it runs in the family of a condition they always said it was bipolar but now im not sure now reading that these 2 are very similar, my dad was is taking zyprexa and 2 other medicine for bipolar and my sister has been on and off medicines we are trying to figure out what they have if the hopspital could have been wrong about bipolar if it could be bpd.. 1st of all they get mad very fast and it can be over the most stupid things even if someone spilled something on accident that gripe,they complain about everything 1 minute they can be laughing and playing then 1 wrong thing to trigger them they fly off the handle that fast yelling screaming,they worry about everything and never get involved with get togethers or friends like they have no life because insecurity problems worried that someone is talking bad about them or just fills out of place and my sister also gets so jealous fast her relationships are always ending because she always argues and never trust them her relationship now is falling apart again they argue everyday she gets mad about anything he does she gets mad and starts a fight when it shows a sexy girl on t.v even she doesnt like him going anywhere she gets jealous if another girl talks to him so she has a bad jealousy problem she said when she gets infront of people she gets nervous tongue tied like anxiety so she doesnt have any friends and her boyfriends friends invite them over if theres women there she argues the hole time why you looking at her ect... so what does this sound like to you bi polar or borderline personality the jealousy the getting mad over everything being nice 1 minute then flying off the handle just by 1 stupid thing shes very hyperactive too but the jealousy the anger, contolling,its like her mind never shuts down always thinking to much and usually the worst she has 3 daughters and needs this under control theres never peace in the home always argueing its almost like her brain is calm for a min then if someone says or does something that makes her mad she blows up and keeps repeating herself over and over about the same thing shes amost 40 years old its getting worse not better with age she does admit to having a problem and starts crying saying she hates being this way that she tired of being mean and unhappy and so jealous and doing and saying stupid things to hurt people this has gone on since a teenager and getting worse she needs a stable life for her and her daughters but ruins all relationships with the jealousy anger controlling and acusing she does!what does this sound like to you??View Thread

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Reply: Identifying Borderline Personality Disorder

Yes, let's go to the land of the Borderlines and all live together

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What's wrong with me?

I just woke up in a state of panic. I am angry at the world and my world feels so negative. I know part of...

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i have questions...help?

my husband just opened up and admitted that he feels like he has like 3 or 4 different "people" in his head....

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I am so depressed, I need real help

I have border line personality, ptsd, and cronic depression. Sorry bad speller. I am going through a...

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Schizophrenia Diagnosis

Hi. I was looking to see if anyone here could help me with issues that I have been having. Recently, things...

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Hi. I was looking to see if anyone here could help me with issues that I have been having. Recently, things have been getting pretty hectic around my house. I still do not know whats really going on and Im absolutely sure that my "delusions" are fueled by truth. Its getting really hard to keep up with affording this medication. Just when things seem to be getting better things take a turn for the worst. In the past year the police have been to my house four times for domestic disturbances that were a result of my behavior as I'm running out of medication. They laugh at me when they come and they call me Peter Pan. I really dont like it. Three of the four times they came I was sent to a mental hospital where I was stabilized and sent home. The last time they came i tried to explain to them exactly what they do to me once I arrive. I basically lose all of my rights as a human when they 10-13 me. They took me to jail and when I requested my medication they never gave it to me. Instead they sent me to the infirmary where was stripped of my clothes and placed in a semen stained cell wearing only a turtle suit in close observation where a naked chinese man named chopsticks got thrown in with me. I gave him my milk so he would leave me alone, but he pisssed off the guards and they took him to another cell where they beat him. I heard everything. I fear that they have it out for me. Lately I've been hiding out in my room where I've blocked off the vents and blocked the door to prevent them from hurting me. i dont fee safe anywhere. Cheap medication gave me seizures, it was perphenazine. I cant really keep a job for long before stuff happens. I try to drink to self medicate but I dont want to be dependent on alcohol again. I need to talk to a psychiatrist but I cant because he kept leaving the room during my appt and kept asking me to talk with my mother. He asked me three times and each time i told him no. After he left the room also for the third time I decided to go outside for a cigarette and when i came back in my mother wasn't in the waiting room anymore. He was discussing my medical information with her. Im 25 and the only reason she was there was because I didnt have car insurance as i was just getting out of the hospital. I yelled at him and told him that wasnt happy about him violatimng my patient rights and havent seen a doctor since. Now my condition is deteriorating and the medication will surely run out once again alo ng. I know something terrible is going to happen soon. I just know it. They talk about on the news about people that were in situations and whether or not it could have been Prevented. They talk about red flags and warning signs. I made a red flag its hanging in my room. RED FLAG!! Theres another one. How do I help myself if I cant trust anyone anymore. Now i've got all these hospital bills and these ppeople who are here to "protect and serve" . They stand there and laugh at me and smirk, and call me peter. The only thing they served me was a bologna sandwich. What should I do? I would never harm anyone or myself, but what decision am I to make when they back me into a corner. I can only run so far to avoid confrontation. I closed off the vents because when I was completely out of medication I could here whispers and their radios. Sometimes its impossible to ignore. . I know alot of this sounds illogical, but I feel like their taunting me, if they are there. I'll be sleeping at night and they will rip the bedsheets off me while im laying down. How am I supposed to ignore that. I dont know who it is. It doesnt make any sense. I can hear footsteps in the attic and when I've gone jup there I have found empty snacks and slim jim wrappers. When Im on my medication, with the correct dose, I just accept it. I feel like when I take my medication I am surrendering. I know how crazy this all sounds, but this is whats happening to me. Somenone please help before its too late . . .View Thread

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Reply: Is there a cure?

There are no meds for Borderline Personality. I take meds for severe depression. No meds will help with...

I'm strong willed and I tell it like it is. I make mistakes, I'm sometimes out of control, but I love and give with all my heart. Have patience with me as I heal.

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I've always told my sons that if they don't stand up for themselves, no one else will. You stood up and...

I'm strong willed and I tell it like it is. I make mistakes, I'm sometimes out of control, but I love and give with all my heart. Have patience with me as I heal.

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SEROQUEL for mood swings

Seroquel has helped me a lot since my diagnosis of BPD nine years ago. Unfortunately my "so called"...

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