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I find that I don't respond well to the "tough love" statements or attitudes. It is particularly upsetting to me. I also don't deal well with ultimatums. I find that a calm, reasonable approach is what gives me the best results. Don't be heartless, either -- emotions are important and we borderlines apparently also feel them more intensely than others do. Be empathetic and understanding and make your daughter feel that she is loved, important, and understood.
Each of us is different, but that's what has helped me.View Thread


If you can't get some help by asking your parents to arrange for you to see someone, then maybe you can get some help by asking your school counselor. (Usually, they're glorified paper pushers and will be glad to have some real business.)
Take care.View Thread

Sorry I don't have much more to say... I'm tired, frustrated and need to hit the sack. I will talk more later.
G'nite.View Thread

I know this because I lived in Great Bend for four years. I still think of KS as home. My cat, Claire, was the first ESA in the Buddy program, and Claire died in 2009. Now I have Savannah, who is completely a different soul from Claire, but she is also my support animal and I take her on long trips. I'll be going back to school in the fall and I'll be taking Savvy with me as a service animal.
I hate to say exactly what you need paperwork-wise, because specifications differ by state, but give Kathy a call, and she'll be able to guide you through it.
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My arms are really, really bad as well. I know they are, because the scars have actually become disfiguring. I get a lot of shocked glances, and either I respond with hiding my arms or wearing a long-sleeved shirt.
I think you should tell your therapist. If you have a Borderline diagnosis the cutting shouldn't come as a surprise to her. (I would think it's actually ... expected?) They're not going to whisk you off to the hospital just because of that. (Listen to me, I'm saying "just" because of cutting. I don't mean to make it sound like it's not serious, because it is, it's just that so many borderlines self-harm, they aren't going to take it as a suicide attempt and take you away.)
The body is often the target of our rage and our fear. Someday, hopefully, we will all be able to look back on these days and say that they were hard, but we learned a lot and we can continue to learn to live in a more healthy way.View Thread

I would like to tell you some things...
I lived in Kansas until I moved away four years ago ... to get my master's degree in clinical social work. A lot of what you said in that post touched something in me.
Kansas has an exceptional public mental health system. Until recently (I've been in close contact with friends), I know that the consumer movement has been phenomenal, compared to some of the states in the nation (Texas, for example, where I also lived before). Their funding has been cut and redirected, but if you could find some kind of peer organization (A CRO -- consumer-run organization), the support you would find from other people with other diagnoses is incredible. When I left Kansas I left a very well-formed support network and miss it to this day, four years later.
Are you at KU? K-State? Wichita? Fort Hays? I know it's difficult to go to school and maintain an even keel while you're dealing with mental health issues, but you of all people should understand what it means to have a personality disorder diagnosis. And you of all people can be confident that with education, experience and support, it can be dealt with successfully.
I'm going back this fall to finish my MSW. I had to withdraw from the other program because I just wasn't mentally stable enough. But I've worked darn hard to make it possible for me to be "okay" enough to go back to school and not be majorly triggered.
You can do it too.View Thread

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Ironically, it seems that a lot of people cut to stop dissociation. I do it for the opposite reason: to induce it. When I'm going through so much tension that I just have to do something to hurt myself, I'm looking for a way to stop the feelings. In a way, I envy you... I have a very difficult time with feelings.
Go figure.
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Great sigh.
In any case, just wanted to say hello to a familiar face.View Thread

Good luck.View Thread
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