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Seroquel has helped me a lot since my diagnosis of BPD nine years ago. Unfortunately my "so called"...

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SEROQUEL for mood swings

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I'm strong willed and I tell it like it is. I make mistakes, I'm sometimes out of control, but I love and give with all my heart. Have patience with me as I heal.

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Otto Kernberg, M.D., in his book about Borderline Personality Disorders, observes he never has seen a patient with Antisocial Personality Disorder who did not also have a Borderline Personality Disorder. My clinical experience is the same. Typically, the person with BPD acts and others react. The reaction is usually both reasonable and proportionate to the seriousness of the initial act, but nevertheless the borderline person views the reaction as unpredictable and excessive, which reinforces their underlying attitude of victimization. This leads to escalation when the borderline person rapidly retaliates against the person who he sees as victimizing him. In the act of escalation, there is another proportionate, usually more serious, response which creates in the borderline person's mind anger, helplessness, indignation, and a sense of victimization. The person against whom the borderline is acting usually tries to restore order but is helpless in doing so. It is common that as the inflammatory situation begins to cool off, the borderline person will then add fuel to the fire and reignite the chaotic situation.

Dr. Theodore Millon, in Disorders of Personality, states "borderlines will have had rather checkered histories in their personal relationships and in school and work performance. Most will have exhibited an extreme unevenness in fulfilling normal social functions and responsibilities. Rarely do they persevere to attain mature goals. Their histories show repeated setbacks, a lack of judgment and foresight, tendencies to digress from earlier aspirations, and failures to utilize their natural aptitudes and talents. It is often easy to trace the consequences of their adaptive inflexibility and their involvement in self-defeating vicious circles. Many have shown flashes of promise, stability, and achievement but these periods usually are either short-lived or are dependent on the presence of a highly tolerant and supportive social system. Most fail to learn from their experiences and involve themselves in the same imbroglios, quandaries, and disappointments as they have before. Life is like a merry-go-round of getting into predicaments and discord and then spending time extricating oneself from them. Few things are ever accomplished and much in life is undone. The borderline patient goes round in circles, covering the same ground as before, getting nowhere, and then starting all over again."

Individuals with Borderline Personality Disorders often have other mental disorders, sometimes multiple ones. In addition to antisocial personality disorders noted above are mood disorders that are common, substance related disorders, eating disorders, particularly bulimia, Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, Attention Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder, and brief psychotic episodes.

The underlying poor sense of identity in the individual who has a Borderline Personality Disorder creates vulnerabilities in many spheres and in the DSM IV TR (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, Fourth Edition, Text Revision) the following behavioral patterns are identified as being abstracts of the impaired identity, sometimes referred to as identity diffusion (by others).

Those include: A pervasive pattern of instability of interpersonal relationships, instability of self-image, instability of mood and affect, marked impulsivity, frantic efforts to avoid real or imagined abandonment, unstable and intense interpersonal relationships, impulsivity which may involve excessive spending, sex, substance abuse, reckless driving, or binge eating to name several, recurrent suicidal behavior, gestures, threats or self-mutilation behavior, affective instability coupled with irritability and anxiety, chronic feelings of emptiness, inappropriate or intense anger or difficulty controlling anger, and transient stress-related paranoid ideation or severe dissociative symptoms including brief psychotic episodes.View Thread

I'm strong willed and I tell it like it is. I make mistakes, I'm sometimes out of control, but I love and give with all my heart. Have patience with me as I heal.

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I'm strong willed and I tell it like it is. I make mistakes, I'm sometimes out of control, but I love and give with all my heart. Have patience with me as I heal.

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Identifying Borderline Personality Disorder

Thoughts that may indicate BPD Alternate between seeing people as either flawless or evil? Have difficulty...

I'm strong willed and I tell it like it is.I make mistakes,I'm sometimes out of control but I love and give with all my heart.If you can't accept me at my worst then you don't deserve me at my best.

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Thoughts that may indicate BPD
Alternate between seeing people as either flawless or evil?

Have difficulty remembering the good things about a person they're casting in the role of villain?

Find it impossible to recall anything negative about this person when they become the hero?

Alternate between seeing others as completely for them or against them.

Alternate between seeing situations as either disastrous or ideal?

Alternate between seeing themselves as either worthless or flawless?

Have a hard time recalling someone's love for them when they're not around?

Believe that others are either completely right or totally wrong?

Change their opinions depending upon who they're with?

Alternate between idealizing people and devaluing them?

Remember situations very differently than other people, or find themselves unable to recall them at all?

Believe that others are responsible for their actions or take too much responsibility for the actions of others?

Seem unwilling to admit to a mistake-or feel that everything that they do is a mistake?

Base their beliefs on feelings rather than facts?

Not realize the effects of their behavior on others?

Feel abandoned at the slightest provocation?

Have extreme moodiness that cycles very quickly (in minutes or hours)?

Have difficulty managing their emotions?

Feelings that may indicate BPD
Feeling emotions so intensely that it's difficult to put others' needs-even those of their own children-ahead of their own?

Feel distrustful and suspicious a great deal of the time?

Feel anxious or irritable a great deal of the time?

Feel empty or like they have no self a great deal of the time?

Feel ignored when they are not the focus of attention?

Express anger inappropriately or have difficulty expressing anger at all?
Feel that they never can get enough love, affection, or attention?

Frequently feel spacey, unreal, or out of it?

Behaviors that may indicate BPD
Have trouble observing others' personal limits?

Have trouble defining their own personal limits?

Act impulsively in ways that are potentially self-damaging, such as spending too much, engaging in dangerous sex, fighting, gambling, abusing drugs or alcohol, reckless driving, shoplifting, or disordered eating?

Mutilate themselves for example, purposely cutting or burning their skin?

Threaten to kill themselves or make actual suicide attempts?

Rush into relationships based on idealized fantasies of what they would like the other person or the relationship to be?

Change their expectations in such a way that the other person feels they can never do anything right?

Have frightening, unpredictable rages that make no logical sense or have trouble expressing anger at all?

Physically abuse others, such as slapping, kicking, and scratching them?

Needlessly create crises or live a chaotic lifestyle?

Act inconsistently or unpredictably?

Alternately want to be close to others, then distance themselves?
(Examples include picking fights when things are going well or alternately ending relationships and then trying to get back together.)

Cut people out of their life over issues that seem trivial or overblown?

Act competent and controlled in some situations but extremely out of control in others?

Verbally abuse others, criticizing and blaming them to the point where it feels brutal?

Act verbally abusive toward people they know very well, while putting on a charming front for others?

Can they switch from one mode to the other in seconds?

Act in what seems like extreme or controlling ways to get their own needs met?

Do or say something inappropriate to focus the attention on them when they feel ignored?

Accuse others of doing things they did not do, having feelings they do not feel, or believing things they do not believe?View Thread

I'm strong willed and I tell it like it is.I make mistakes,I'm sometimes out of control but I love and give with all my heart.If you can't accept me at my worst then you don't deserve me at my best.

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My teen has been a behavior problem for many years and we have struggled greatly . We have spent much time...

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how i feel every second of my day....

shaking shivering starting to cry feeling so lonely wanting to die and if you tell people the things...

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Knowing your Triggers!

I sent a couple of Medical BPD websites to my family members and people that are close to me so they may see...

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Listen to Music when depressed

My tip is for those of you who may get depressed every now and then. When you get depressed, listen to...

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