Hi Roberta ... Just read your original post from 2 weeks ago. Looks like you, mom and Kaiden have been through a lot lately! From your last response, it appears that your schedules are stabilizing ... and you all can get more sleep. You are so kind to your friend and her baby. (you're that way all of the time anyway!) My thoughts and continued prayers are with each of you.
Hi Sandy, It's 7:10am and am soon on my way to the airport to drop off my brother-in-law. He is a pilot for United and stopped briefly in Michigan to see my mother-in-law and my husband before flying to training in Denver. Just want you to know I am thinking of you. You have gone through so much but you are one very strong individual. Please be patient and know that things will gradually get BETTER!! You have the support of this entire site and countless family and friends. Please keep in touch and take it one day at a time, one ache at a time!!
Hi Sandy ... Am thinking of you. Are you still in much pain? Your doctor should be able to help with that. How is your healing going? When are you scheduled for an epidural? Hopefully, SOON. Keep in touch ... my thoughts and prayers are with you.
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Dear Rachael and Mrichers, Rachael ... your ideas were excellent!! I remember feeling a little queasy during chemo. Saltine crackers and ginger ale helped. Sometimes I would suck on Wurther's Butterscotch hard candies .... seemed to help eliminate/mask the chemical taste in my mouth. I also brought a couple books and magazines to pass the time. My chemo nurse was fantastic . ... we talked about the chemo drugs, our families, careers, etc. Additionally, I found it helpful to talk and LISTEN to the patients near me ... IF they wanted to talk. The time went fast that way. Mrichers, thanks for coming to this site ... see how helpful the women can be. They have "been there, done that"!! You are a very loving daughter ... that is obvious. Tell your Mom she has many positive thoughts and prayers coming her way. Keep in touch with us ...
Greetings Sandy and Others on this site, Thanks for your response ... I find it interesting that like you,before bc, I was quite an athletic, active person .... walking, tennis golf, lifting things easily, etc. In high school, I was even a cheerleader for a couple years. (not a petite type!) Now those things are difficult. A few weeks ago, (like you) I washed my kitchen floor on my hands and knees ... a little uncomfortable and quite a stupid act if I must say so! Oh well ... I agree with just about everything you said ... we should not "sweat the small stuff". I try to remind myself every day that there are people out there who have it MUCH worse than me. A few days after my original surgery, a good friend gave me a plaque which simply stated, "If you love life, life will love you back". That made sense to me ... life means God, (whatever definition you believe) children, relatives, husbands, neighbors, old friends, new friends, and on and on ...
Mary Beth, We are here for you. I believe there are some wonderful, sincere women on this site. They truly care and can be very helpful and supportive, regardless of what stage of cancer someone has. Hopefully the Taxol and Herceptin will help destroy any cancer. I LOVE your red hat ... and maybe you remember that Scarlet O'Hara made her gown out of GREEN velvet from the drapes in the mansion!! On another note,I am so angry that any woman has to endure financial hardship after breast cancer. It's just not right!! You should not have to be worried about $ at a time like this. Hopefully, you (or friends/relatives) are checking into some other resources that may be available in your community. After all, aren't there about a million (exaggeration) fund raisers every year to FIGHT breast cancer? That's all we hear/see/feel during the entire month of OCTOBER. My double mastectomy was October 5th two years ago ... I felt like the media breast cancer poster child!! Everything has the pink ribbon on it and you feel guilty if you don't buy the pink-ribboned brand of yogurt! Last year, I even saw a pink ribbon on a bottle of vodka at my local grocery store! Unbelievable! Please stay on this site ... you are free to go to others too, but you will always find support and love here. Welcome back.
Dear Emerald, Sandy and others, Thanks for your responses. Hope you are all having a comfortable weekend. (cold but comfy). I'm still having my pain/discomfort problems, but have been distracted the past 2 nights. That seems to help me get my mind off myself and on something else. : - ) Worked at a fund raiser/auction last night to raise $ for my son's senior all night graduation party in in May. Sandy, glad you are starting to heal from your most recent surgery. It may take time to adjust to the physical changes you are seeing.... hope things look good and more normal to you. Now, you should focus on getting rid of the pain in your back. Emerald, I have not yet made an appointment for tattoos. Always figured it would be when I started feeling much BETTER! That hasn't really happened yet, so will give it more time. The sense of "completion" is important to me and probably to most of the women on this site. Everything has gone slower than I ever anticipated. I originally thought that after 1 year, things would be back to some kind of "normal" ... and I'm working on that. "If it's to be, it's up to me"!! (quote from my mother-in-law ... and easier said than done!!) Emerald, do you think a pt can help you? It's worth a try and most insurance policies will cover a # of visits. I am fortunate ... my insurance allows 30 visits per calender year. I referral is needed, however.
As far as golf ... am not sure at this time if I will be able to comfortably swing a golf club again. : - ( Maybe I could start gradually with putting or miniature golf. Sandy, you are such a sweetheart to suggest a game of golf. You're my hero!! You understand what golf is about. Sometimes it makes me sad to think I might not be able to play my regular game again. Golf was the one thing I could really do well!! (not cooking!!) Anyway, there are more important things in life than a golf game. Keep in touch ... hope all is well.
It is very cold today in Michigan ... Brrrrr ... just like Chicago! After reading your responses, I was wondering if you have tried physical therapy with a certified breast cancer therapist? I have returned to my PT after 8 months with no PT. She "works" on me in a private room first, then I return to the open room for specific chest exercises. (equipment too) My right "breast" has a mind of its own just like you stated in your response. My PT notices that I have many muscle spasms (pec muscle) under my right breast. I also have a tendon that is quite pronounced under my right arm pit near the area that 2 lymph nodes were taken out. She believes there is scar tissue in the region. Stretching seems to help. Could your pec muscle be causing your implant to move? Does it ever spasm on that side? Of course I am no expert, but it might be beneficial to go to a PT a few times. I don't always sleep well either ... especially if I am lying on my right side. The implant (or something else) seems to constantly move. I can sleep much better on my left side. ... No more sleeping on my stomach, though ... things have changed since the implants!
Emerald, am so glad you have a beautiful granddaughter to keep you occupied. She came along at just the right time. Give my regards to your daughter ... 6th graders are a challenging group! Some are mature and others are still young children. I give her a lot of credit for working with that grade. Keep in touch ... hope all is well with you and family.
Hi Sandy ... bet you can't wait until Friday. : - ) Glad you were able to get away to Florida even for a short time. Distractions can be our best friends at a time like this! By the way, where do you live? (state) I honestly don't remember much about "nipple protectors" after my surgery .. must have blanked out the whole thing! I do remember there was a tornado warning as they wheeled me into surgery!! My husband, the weather nut, was following it on his lap top. I think my surgeon put on bandages of some kind. Are you going to have the "final" part of reconstruction? .. The TATTOO!! I guess that's like a cherry on top of a hot fudge sundae with whipped cream ... if you get my drift!! I will finally get around to having the tattoo one of these days ... no big hurry for me. Sandy, hope you are soon out of pain and discomfort and can get back to "normal", ..." old" normal or "new" normal..... whatever!! Keep in touch ...
Rachael ... I love your quote too! Silence is precious, but so lacking in our fast-paced society. My mother-in-law has made little books of quotes, designed with her elegant calligraphy and colorful drawings. She is gifted as an artistic and has collected a few hundred sayings that can be applied to just about any situation in life. I have found these helpful at different times throughout the years. Here's another one: "If it's to be, it's up to me". The quotes are usually positive and inspirational. I told her many years ago that she should sell her books to the Hallmark company. Instead, she has chosen to give them away as presents to countless friends and relatives. She has been a wonderful person throughout my breast cancer "journey". Hope all is well with you (everyone) today.