Rachael ... I love your quote too! Silence is precious, but so lacking in our fast-paced society. My mother-in-law has made little books of quotes, designed with her elegant calligraphy and colorful drawings. She is gifted as an artistic and has collected a few hundred sayings that can be applied to just about any situation in life. I have found these helpful at different times throughout the years. Here's another one: "If it's to be, it's up to me". The quotes are usually positive and inspirational. I told her many years ago that she should sell her books to the Hallmark company. Instead, she has chosen to give them away as presents to countless friends and relatives. She has been a wonderful person throughout my breast cancer "journey". Hope all is well with you (everyone) today.
Thanks for writing. Hope you are not in much discomfort at this time. I also thank God that I am alive ... right now ... NO cancer and for this I am truly grateful. Am learning to live with a lot of pain/discomfort .... think it is scar tissue that pokes in the chest region. Thought it would go away or lessen by now. Oh well, part of my recovery is accepting what has happened and learning to live with it. Like you, my husband has been very supportive. I hate to complain so much ... my mother-in-law has a saying: "Fake it until you make it"! Sometimes I stay busy just to get my mind of the discomfort. Am trying to stay positive. One good thing ... we look pretty good in a bathing suit with our implants!! : - ) Too bad we just got a bunch of snow here in Michigan ... no sun bathing for me!! Hope you are okay for now. Do you have a family/kids? I have one son, who is 18 years old and a senior in high school. Also have 2 step-sons, 31 and 29 years old. Am a retired teacher. Keep in touch ...
Hi Haylen, Thanks for all of your positive influence on this wonderful site. These ladies are my support group ... I love each and every one of them. As far as my advice to my teenage self ... I woudn't change very much ... loved all of my school years, had friends and was involved in clubs, cheerleading, homecoming court, active in most school activities, etc. Despite all of my involvement, was a little shy around boys. Had a very difficult time asking a boy even to the "Turnabout" dances!! As far as college, wish I would have gone to the University of Michigan for all 4 years, rather than transferring in as a junior. I was not very involved in the university social life because I was studying my brains out!! Did go the the football games, though. : - ) Changing the topic for a moment, biggest life regret is I didn't have MORE children!! Gave birth to my one and only (son) at the age of 41! Am SO grateful he came into our lives.... just wish I had been able to start earlier and have about 3-4 kids. I have learned to accept what comes along in life, and go with the flow. Haylen, thanks for such an interesting topic.
Am sure Pinkie will be picking you up on Jan. 19th and 30th. You will arrive in style at the hospital/surgical center. Pinkie never gets stopped by the police either!! Pink license plate says: Pinkie to the Rescue! : - ) Joking aside, has the doctor given you any additional information about the "complicated" cyst on the right ovary, or is he/she waiting to get it out? Cysts can be quite common sometimes and most of the time they are benign. You did not mention your age ... have you had kids yet? Also, have you had any type of breast cancer in the past? Family history? My thoughts and prayers will be with you on Jan. 19th and 30th. Please keep in touch with all of us.
Hi Sandy, Hope you have a great trip to Florida!! Good luck on the 17th. Am amazed the the PS can do the 2 procedures at one time. That is very good news. I had my "nipples" done in 2010. Sounds like you are having the same exact procedure, where the PS uses a device to squeeze the skin together to form the nipple. Recovery was very easy for me on this surgery. : - ) Have not scheduled the tattoos yet. Am still in much discomfort, (scar tissue, poking, fluid, etc) but I do want to complete my new breasts with tattoed aereols!! Sandy, I'm also hoping you can get some back relief very soon. You are one brave person and I am optimistic that all will go smoothly for you. Now go to Florida and get some of the healing sunshine!! = )
Dear Ledotter, You are right. You did not need lectures or advice from us. I guess we responded because we wanted to help you as best we could with what we each know and feel about this disease. I thought of asking you about "age" because I am very close to my 87 year old mother-in-law who has many pre-existing conditions, and she usually refuses treatment. She is very holistic in her approach to most health issues. It is YOUR life, YOUR body, and YOUR decision. My thoughts are with you as you go down this path.
Dear Ledotter, After reading your post, I wondered #1 How old you are and #2 Why have you refused treatment? In 2009, I was diagnosed with Stage 1 and 2 ER Lobular breast cancer in both breasts. Lobular is the type that is difficult to feel in the breast and often it cannot be picked up on mammograms and ultra sounds. It commonly spreads slowly from one breast to the other and can grow quite large if undetected. My doctor said it would be wise to have a double mastectomy ... I did, and luckily the cancer had not spread to my lymph nodes. Chemotherapy was also recommended so I chose chemo. Have been taking Anastrozole for about 1 year and 9 months. Have to be on it for a total of 5 years. I also went through breast reconstruction ... no picnic, but doable! PLEASE write me back ... I wonder why you're taking such a risk. I thought you might be 90 years old, so maybe it wouldn't be such a bad idea so late in life. I don't think you will like the "interesting adventure" that refusing treatment will give you. Please tell me your letter was a "joke". Why do you have this attitude?
Dear Emerald, Did your surgeon use alloderm? (skin-like material) Also, did your doctor make a pocket, then sew in the implant under your chest muscle? Were the implants made of silicon or saline? I am no expert, but I have heard about implants moving toward the armpits. I also had a double mastectomy a little over two years ago, (Oct. 5, 2009) but did not have immediate reconstruction. As it turned out, I did not need radiation, but did go through chemo every 3 weeks for 4 months. After that, had expanders (very tight & painful!) then 3 months later, implants. My implants are fine and do not move around, but I am in constant pain/discomfort from (I think) scar tissue/fluid build-up on under/near both implants. Also have muscle spasms on my right implant area. Someone on this site should be able to relate to what you're going through. I must admit I was envious when you stated that sometimes you forget that you have an implant and it feels perfect!! WOW!! I would love to have that feeling!! My thought are with you and I hope you will get some answers from someone. What do your doctors say? I can truly imagine what you are feeling with the moving implant. Could muscle spasms be the culprit? Keep in touch ...