Hi talpha 1, it sounds like your appointment is today, so you will have some answers. I know you're terrified, I've been there myself. My cancer was a fast growing, aggressive one too. We can't answer all your questions here, but please address every one of them with your doctor, I hope she or he gives you all the time you need, I'm sure you have a list of questions with you. I hope too that someone goes with you for your medical visits. I think it helps a lot.
As for whether you are to blame for your cancer, this is useless speculation which does you no good. I know, having had a period when I thought about that a lot. I agree with Jenna, just lousy luck, and possibly genetics. You need your energy to focus on fighting this thing.
Please let us know about your appointment, and know that we're all thinking of you and wishing you the best.
Hi, just wanted to say that I'm sorry about your mom, and that in your situation, given your history, I would want further study on this lump. I say this not to scare you, but I think a biopsy would certainly be appropriate. If your doctor doesn't think it necessary, I would get a second opinion. I think that we have to be aggressive about our own health care. If you live near a large medical center I'd think about going there, too. You are about my daughter's age, and this is what I'd urge her to do.
I'll certainly be thinking of you and wishing the best for you. Please come back and let us know what's going on with you.
I'm sorry about your diagnosis, and we all know how scared you are. As Mary said, please come back and let us know about your MRI. There are many people here who care, and a lot of good information as well.
I was just sitting here wishing I could give you a big hug. This seems pretty typical in situations like ours, that the first diagnosis and treatment plan changes. I was sitting with the radiation oncologist and she was telling me my treatment plan when she got a call from my surgeon telling her that my tests had come back triple negative with a 93% chance of recurrence. I was then changed to surgery and chemo. You're so young and this is a huge decision but I'm sure you'll ultimately make the one that gives you peace and the best chance of a long and healthy life.
I would not presume to give you advice as I'm still kind of new at this, medical advice I mean, but there are many of us here who can offer lots of ideas on the after effects of surgery, chemo, etc. You'll also find a lot in the "Tips" column on the home page. As bad as the diagnosis of breast cancer is, I think a final diagnosis kind of galvanizes our thinking and determination to "put on our big girl pants" as one of the ladies here told me, and get doing what has to be done. I'm so glad you have your mother to talk with, My only advice at the moment is to turn and run as fast as you can from anyone who has anything negative to say. I imagine at this point you feel like you've been hit by a train and then had an elephant sit on your chest but you'll get through this with the help of excellent medical care and those who love you. Please let us know how you are, and be sure to take care of you.
I'm afraid I can't be of much help either as I don't know of anyone with this specific condition. I wonder if your sister is seeing someone at a major medical center. If at all possible I'd be looking into that. Some of the oncologists have very specific specialties, and may be able to be of help to your sister.
I'll echo Roberta in saying that you are a loving and caring sister to be helping her through this. Not everyone has this kind of support and bless you for it. Please let us know how your sister is doing.
Hello, and welcome, and sorry too that you have reason to be here. I'm so sorry about your diagnosis but want you to know that there is no correct thing to say and I'd be amazed if you weren't all over the place at this stage. This is the most difficult time that many of us will ever experience in our lives. You can come here for information, a wealth of it under the "Tips" section and also by searching the Community. You can also come to ask specific questions or just throw yourself a big "pity party". I remember that when I got my diagnosis I felt like I'd been run over by a train, and I came and vented plenty. The good thing here is that everyone knows how you feel. Different situations of course, but almost everyone has had a diagnosis of breast cancer, women of all ages.
I was also diagnosed with IDC but my situation was different, I had no choice but mastectomy. I've never looked back and questioned that, there's no doubt it saved my life at the time. I know how you feel too, that you just want the cancer out. I unfortunately don't much about a lumpectomy, and ultimately the choice is up to you but I wonder if your medical team's thinking is that the stage, size and location of your tumor warrants the lumpectomy. If you have someone on your team that you feel really comfortable and unrushed with, I'd have a long talk about these things. My oncologist, a wonderful doctor with many patients, was always rushed, but his PA was great about talking with me and answering all questions and concerns. If you have someone like this it can be a tremendous help. Also the cancer center I go to has free counseling for their patients. I take full advantage of this and it's been amazingly helpful. Please take advantage on this board of some of the advice in the past about how to go prepared to appointments, talking with your doctors, a little of everything. Figuring out where to start is difficult, but you'll do your research on reliable sites, be good to yourself, take the support offered by family and friends, and get through this. It sounds like you have a wonderful mom, and bless her for being persistent about your self exams. It seems you already have someone who will be by your side for this journey.
Again, I'm so sorry that you have to be here, but please come back and let us know how you're doing.
I think I do know that feeling, when I go out to get the newspaper every morning, and the world is just waking, I always stand a moment, just overwhelmed by it, so peaceful and the birds singing, so beautiful, especially in spring. I try to always remember to give thanks. I come in, smell the coffee brewing and wake my DH. We have a "retirees" breakfast, about two hours long, just enjoying the coffee, newspaper, and our little cats. We have much to be thankful for.
I'm so glad you had a lovely Mother's Day weekend. Sorry your back is so bad, I hope the shot helps. Was it a steroid injection?
I've been out of touch recently, just catching up with what's happening with everyone, and was so glad to hear that your Mom is feeling better. The hair is definitely a big deal, glad she's getting hers back and has it colored. I think your mother and I are kind of on the same track, I just uncovered my head for my family yesterday and I feel so free now. I think it shocked my daughter, I've definitely got the "chemo curls", and it's now gray and white.
Happy Mother's Day to you and your mother. You both deserve a lovely day, you've been through so much together.