Thanks so much for the encouragement! I needed a kick in the butt. I've been trying to read as much positive info and as many positive stories that I can and I think I'm feeling better about everything. We met with the doctor yesterday and he was very upbeat about everything, even telling her to start exercising her arm and start walking. We meet with the oncologist next week about the radiation and I'm feeling better about that too.
Thanks everyone for allowing me to vent and have a semi-meltdown. I'm trying my best to switch from negative to positive on this emotional roller coaster. I got hung up on the numbers and stats and forgot that there are many, many women who have made it through stage 3 treatment and are thriving years and years later.
Well, I have officially made myself sick by looking up info on the internet. It is a wealth of information, both good and bad. I'm trying to just think of it as cancer and not focus so much on the numbers but the details are what's scaring me. I go from "she is going to fight this and win" to "Oh God, I need to sell my house, quit my job and move back in with my parents to help them." I'm all over the place and questioning everything. How does she go from getting normal mammograms every year to stage 3 breast cancer? Why wasn't this caught sooner if they tell us it probably started over 5 years ago? Sorry for venting a little...just on cancer info overload!View Thread
We met with the Doc today and he said she had 17 out of 18 nodes test positive. I didn't want to ask any questions in front of my mom and I'm hoping the doctor's office calls me back but those numbers are really scaring me. When she had her scans back in September, everything came back negative. I'm really worried that she's sicker than we thought.View Thread
Mom had her surgery Wednesday, right side mastectomy and lymph node removal, and everything went really well. I am so happy with her doctor and his caring manner.
He just called to say that her lymph nodes tested positive and he wants her to do radiation. He said this might be another step but we were hoping it wouldn't be needed since she had such a hard time with the chemo.
If I could ask for your help again, could you tell me what to expect and the best way to get through the treatment? I started looking up info online and I really don't know what to expect. We don't go back to the office until next Thursday. Again, I would really appreciate any help or advice you could give.
Thank you Michelle and Roberta for your advice. My mom has been in the hospital since last Friday night and after talking to her oncologist, we are stopping the chemo. It was just too much for her. Once they take the port out and get her blood counts back to normal range, we're going to get her back home and help build her body back up for her mastectomy. Seeing her get sicker and sicker was unbearable, especially knowing that there was nothing I could do. I'm so thankful for you ladies and your encouragement.
I need your thoughts and opinions on something...My mom is scheduled to do six rounds of taxotere and cytoxan, but wants to quit after three. She has had horrible side effects, been in and out of the ER after all three treatments and at 75, with heart problems, she doesn't want to so any more treatments. She is planning on having a full mastecomy and lymph removal after the chemo. Would it hurt her that bad if she stopped after three?
I know we have to meet with the Oncologist to discuss all of this but I'm curious if anyone out there has stopped because the side effects were so bad and what everyone's opinion is. I see how hard this is on her but I want her to have the best chance of getting through this. Any thoughts?View Thread
Thank you everyone for your encouragement and support. I still feel incredibly guilty but I think I'll be going on my trip in January.
Mom had her first chemo treatment last week and her major side effect has been diarrhea. My dad has had to take her to the ER twice because she has been so dehydrated and in the bathroom a lot. Besides the bland diet and drink lots of clear fluids, are there any other tips that could help her with this? I've been researching online about diarrhea and chemo but it's always the same thing. I didn't know if any of you had any other tricks that might have helped through this...
Thanks so much for being here for me. I talk to my friends but sometimes I don't think they really understand what it's like.