Husbands, I am feeling disrespected. My wife of 23 yrs. has undergone a bilateral mastectomy with reconstruction three days ago. She was diagnosed with left DCIS in June of 2013. Since her diagnosis I have heard multiple comments from her friends, family and co-workers about looking forward to seeing and touching her new "ta-tas, boobies, and tits". They have gone as far as to "jokingly" offer raffel tickets or to take donations to feel and/or see her new breast. I feel that my wife is being reduced to a pair of fake breast and I do not like it. Yesterday she asked me if I wanted to see them and I had to force myself to look. It was not because I felt turned off by the healing scars or the reduction from a 36DD to a 36C but I no longer felt special. I no longer felt like I was the only one, able to appreciate the woman I was blessed to have for 23 yrs. Women and cancer survivors I will express my feelings with my wife. I am trying to put her feelings above mine. I want to be sensitive to her healing and means of coping by allowing the comments to continue. However, I need to speak before anger becomes sin.
My wife has undergone a bilateral mastectomy and reconstruction three days ago. Her diagnosis of having left DCIS occurred in June of 2013. Since the diagnosis, I have been dealing with hearing boob jokes. I am offended. What offends me are comments from my wife's friends and co-workers to see and/or feel her "new boobies, ta-tas, and tits". All of the comments that I have heard have been from females. Some have jokingly, offered tickets and raffels to see and to feel them. People cope with life's difficulties in different ways, some pray, some talk, some shut others out and some use jokes to cope. I am feeling that my wife is being reduced to a pair of fake breast, available for the world to experience. She asked me do I want to see them and I have no desire to see what so readilly has been exposed to others.View Thread
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